Discernment or being critical

Yes. Knowledge puffeth up, but charity edifieth.

That doesn't mean you settle for any church, but there are some things you're just going to have to let go. You may have to sit under the leadership of those who are your lessers, and just hold your peace when things are said you don't agree with. That would be a good lesson in humility. (You may find out they were your betters after all.)

 

I see you're in Missouri. I have a good friend that is on staff a a solidly reformed SBC church in the St. Louis area. If you're in that vicinity, send me a message and I'll put you in touch. I'm very much like you.

 

Yes, absoslutely. Discernment mandates, however, that one be able to know the difference between what is an essential and a nonessential. Look at this bb as an example, and see how many people are making issues (sometimes even salvific issues) over nonessentials.

 

Now this is a point I whole-heartedly agree with!!!!:thumbsup::thumbsup:

 

Discernment is when you agree with me, if you disgree that is being critical.

 

You probably aren't going to find a 'perfect' church, where you find no problems with anything they teach. Don't nit pick them to death, pray where God would have you serve Him and stay there. Even if it doesn't feel like the perfect fit.
What Aaron said.....

 

If such a church exists, don't join it!! The moment we do, it will cease to be perfect!! :laugh:

 

Only you and God Know

 

When the Billy Graham crusade was in Lubbock in the mid 70's, friends from church invited us to go with them. It was about 100 miles each way, giving time for lots of discussions.

Two people I then and still admired deeply for their wisdom and faith discussed a whole host of topics, and I listened.

They did not see eye to eye on much of anything. One was very fundmentalistic and Calvinistic. The other was very dispensational and what back then was termed a moderate.

They were always gentle, respectful to each other, and never got all worked up. Each stated their beliefs on the topics and quoted scripture why. They other person would do the same.

No debating, no fussing, no fighting. Best witness I ever saw.

As we would pull into the crusade both would pray for God to save souls that night.

One of the souls turned around was my dh.

God make me "that kind of Baptist" and gives us millions more.

 

Thats true.
What I meant wasn't sinless, but doctrinal, is that what you meant also? I thought this is what he was saying, but maybe not.

 

Yeah, I'm in agreement with you. While we should strive for doctrinal appropriateness, there's no such thing as a doctrinally perfect church, or, for that matter, a doctrinally perfect person (specifically in regards to nonessentials). We apply scripture in our lives to the best of our imperfect human ability. Paul addressed a small portion of this somewhat, when he said "let no one judge you... let each be fully pursuaded according to his own mind". But what we often do is try to get each person to be fully pursuaded accourding to our mind.