Birth order and marriage

I've heard this before. I think it can be true in some cases, hopefully not all since me and my wife are both first born.

 

It certainly is true in my case. I'm a first-born married to a last-born. Generally speaking (and in my case) the first born is detailed, organized, leadership oriented, tidy, and with a type A personality. The last born is often happy-go-lucky, messy, optimistic, and type B personality.

Our strengths and weaknesses balance each other perfectly.

 

Same here, my wife is a first born - type A, I'm a last born -type B.

 

I've read a lot about birth order over the years. There is some validity to it.

I'm also blessed to be a first born married to a middle (almost last -- the last born was the "accident" that came 8 years later :laugh and our relationship is blessed. After 38 years of being together and 33 years of marriage, we are still like kids at the prom.

Oh, and for those who think that age is a determining factor in the success of a relationship, let me say that I started dating my wife-to-be when she was just 14 (I was 16). I gave her an engagement ring when she was 16 and we were married the fall after she graduated high school when she was 18. We grew up together -- in my mind, the best possible way to unite a couple forever -- a better way than trying to take a couple of people who lived for 28 years alone and somehow causing them to be able to function in a one-flesh marriage relationship.

 

From the article under 'what doesn't work'

Two first-borns: Conflict is likely if you're highly competitive and both want to be in charge. It can work if you can channel your competitive drives outside of the relationship.

Hmm, 33 years on, six kids, five grandkids. More in love now than ever.

Sounds like it might work to me.

 

Sooo, then, do you "channel your competitive drives outside of the relationship" or not? Otherwise I don't know if you are agreeing or disagreeing. You're leaving me in the dark here man! :smilewinkgrin:

 

I feel thhis way too. Me and my wife have been together only 4 years, married two, but when we met I was 22 and she was 19. I do feel we've grown so much together, learning to live on our own together.

 

I'm middle born, hubs is a last born. 30 years here.