Why People Get Angry with Their Pastor?

If a pastor is following God and His word in his preaching and his actions and not his own desires. His focus being on God and others and not programs, numbers, prestige, money, power, politics etc...Then there shouldn't be anything anyone can bring against him.

If a person has no cause against such a pastor or the leaders, then this person should move on to a church that can meet his "needs"...even if he does have cause, best to move on....thing is it ain't about us lay people getting our "needs" met as much as it is being an active, functioning healthy members of the body...serving others and glorifying God in the process.

In the late 90's, we (well mainly me as my ex didn't care) didn't agree with the contemporary music in our sons youth group being played on Sunday morning (heavy metal "christian" band...saying "there is no heaven there is n hell etc")....I talked first to the youth pastor and got no where...then to the assistant pastor/music director, again got no where even though he couldn't answer my questions and he had very poor arguments....lol, actually quiet sad.

So I copied some of the tapes that were in the room...music and lyrics etc...spent a month or more and did a 8 page study on it using ALL SCRIPTURE then presented all the info I had on the subject and gave it to all three....we were later called in by the main pastor to be told, he agreed with everything presented yet he didn't know what to do...we nicely bid him farewell, and left...a year later the youth pastor was fired for other reasons.

Point being, instead of being a thorn in the flesh of a pastor or any leader who has been called by God...best to leave, plus it is scriptural.

 

I've never been angry with a pastor. I've disagreed strongly though and when I knew things weren't going to change, I left. But angry? No.

 

RD, even though I'm not leading a flock, it is a good read. It gives much insight regardless of which side of the pulpit God calls us to stand.

Thanks for sharing.

 

It can be best to just leave if you disagree, but it can also be wrong.

I'll give a few examples:

once when I was a child, our local Baptist pastor was having a very open affair with one of the nice church ladies. My folks looked the other way for a time assuming it was baseless gossip. It turned out to be true, and the whole community including members of the Baptist church confronted them. When the preacher basically told the church off, the people didn't leave but rather fired him. So yeah, once in a blue moon maybe but sometimes you stay and fight.

I would also say that IF a church calls a pastor and has made it clear from the get go that that particular church will or won't be Calvinistic, or will or won't do a certain type of music, or will or won't have these super long (two plus hours) services, etc, and the pastor has agreed to the arrangement but comes in trying to change everything to the opposite way, it is time for him to leave, not the people.

But then, I'm a dinosaur on a few issues. I believe the people build the church, that the congregation under Jesus as Lord govern the church, and that the pastor is called by and serves at the discretion of both our Lord Jesus AND the local church. I've watched twice as buildings were basically stolen from good Baptist congregations by wolves in clerical clothing. One is now Pentecostal. So no, uh uh, not gonna consider the man behind the pulpit as in charge and I should leave if I disagree with him.

I'm also a dinosaur about this, though: the man in the pulpit isn't your counselor, financial advisor, best buddy, therapist, or life coach. He isn't there to help you have a happy marriage, cure you of drinking, or keep your kids happy to be in church. He is there to preach the Word of God. The WHOLE Word of God.

And if he does it well, you may not like some of what he says and may go home with bruised toes from him stepping on them.

 

I would agree

 

As a pastor, I don't think your comments reflect any extinct lizard-like qualities. In fact, I wish more people would fight with/for their faith families and keep the covenant they made when they joined. "Divorcing" one's church family has become rampant. Biblically, I see only two reasons why anyone would ever break covenant... moving to another community or doctrine. In that either false doctrine is being proclaimed or truth is not being proclaimed.

Breaking unity for any other reason cheapens the message of the gospel and hurts the testimony of the church.