4 Year old kicked out of private Christian School

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  1. Salty

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    While I think the school's reaction may be overboard; this is stupefying:
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    Good for the school. It's totally their right to decide who to do business with. This woman was a troublemaker and they decided she wasn't worth putting up with.
     
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    Been there and done that. Christian Schools that is.

    We sent three kids and four grand kids (for a ton of money) and in the process ran across some so called Christian Teachers that really displayed some odd attitudes toward their so-called "Ministry".

    To be honest with you, out of this experience with Christian Schools all seven of our kids can read and write quite well but otherwise, not much was accomplished. Ignorant infighting betwix the staff as usually Church Leadership fills the school with their wives..., and the beat goes on.

    In the instant matter it would appear to me the school over-reacted (which is usually the case) and in essence, punished the child to get even with the parent. Wrong! Not only is this wrong it's an "ignorant" approach.

    What would have been wrong with sitting down attempting to "educate" the parent? To get the parent on board with the school's mission? To involve said parent? Why not? ...well, that would have required valuable time away from the Throne Room.

    What's that line about..., "Suffer little children, and forbid them not..."?
     
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    The story suggests that there is more to the school/parent relationship than what is reported. Some people are not worth dealing with. I suspect that the mother was one of those types.
     
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    I work at a Christian school, so allow me to weigh in.

    My school does the opposite and just puts up with awful parents. I'm talking horrible! I wish the school would expel kids just b/c of the terrible parents.

    That said, there is not a "right" decision. Either choice will have consequences that will be both good and bad. So which path is best for the institution? That may be a better question.
     
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    Greektim, my daughter teaches at a Christian School. She tells of our Current Administration starting to take over. Sad.
     
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    There are few good stories in Xian Ed that I can recall. The school I work at in Honduras is not affiliated w/ a church but 6 different denominations or missions organizations. So that keeps the balance of powers fairly well. But we have our share of issues as well, believe you me.

    I am learning that Xian Ed is more of an investment into the future of these students. Often there is not an immediate cash-out. But many years down the road (when you have no knowledge of the child any more), they "come around". That makes it hard b/c you want to see the pay off NOW.
     
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    That is usually the case.

    On one hand it is imperative that a Christian school have standards and it is the parents that help maintain those standards. Once you get one bad apple in.....

    In addition standards should be fully explained to parents prior to enrollment. However, parents are often in a rush and what they are told goes in one ear and out the other. In addition, some parents think that by sending their kids to a Christian school is the perfect solution and that the School is fully in charge.

    So bottom line - we are not aware of previous encounters this woman has had with the school or her participation - or lack of it.
    With the limited info I have, I would at least at the moment side with the school.

    Maybe some Christian TV Network could have "judge show" for such disagreements.
     
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    Jesus had the best advice for dealing with....shall we say...."challenging people"....as is recorded in Matthew 18.

    Interestingly, this advice is prefaced with His desire to see "little ones" [4 YO's maybe?] come to know the way to not perish, but to know "your Father which is in heaven" [Matt. 18:14].

    God's Word goes on to prescribe the way that we should deal with these people in verses 15ff.

    Some might say that this passage only deals with matters of local church discipline, but I'm not fully convinced that is all that is meant in these verses.

    Verse 15 starts out with "Moreover, if thy brother shall trespass against thee...." IMHO, I tend to believe that right there we have our Savior's desire for us to "make it personal" when dealing with matters such as the OP referenced.

    Yes, "private Christian School(s)" have a right (an "obligation"?) to set whatever standards of behavior it/they believe the Lord would have them establish. I also see that God's Word puts the primary responsibility of training up a small child on the parents, NOT the school or even the local church, e.g., Deuteronomy 4:4-9.

    If a young child displays a consistent attitude of willful rebellion and disobedience toward the school's policies, most likely that's a symptom of deeper problems that child has with his/her parents---problems that need to be addressed and dealt with ASAP.

    Yes, there may be other factors that both parties need to consider, but, speaking from almost 20 years of experience in "private Christian School," nine times out of ten I've found that it's the home environment that gives birth to the majority of these problems.

    This is not to say that every Christian school always handles every problem that it faces with the utmost of "Christian virtue." You'll always find some situations that probably could have been handled a little better than they perhaps they were---after all, even those on the staff and/or faculty of a Christian school are still, at best, sinners "saved by the grace of God."

    I know that I sure am one.
     
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    I agree with he school.
     
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    I agree, ktn4eg, "Go and tell..." at least once. Don't just kick the kids.
     
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    My daughter keep telling me Dad you need to get on facebook. So do all my grandkids and friends. I'm old fashion and love my privacy and for an old duffer like me I don't want the world to know my personal business. This is a good example why I'm not on it and won't be.
     
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    Fully agree.
     
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    She tagged the school on FB but didn't think the school she tagged on FB would see it?

    DERP!!!!! That is going to need a high-dollar education if his Mom is THAT clueless.
     
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    I hate to seem clueless myself, but what does "DERP" mean? An idiot, perhaps?
     
  19. Salty

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    Rolf - that is two of us.

    I did find this:

    Derp is an expression sometimes used online to signify stupidity, much like the earlier forms of “duh” and “dur.”
     
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    Why would a parent pay to send their child to a school they so dislike?
     

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