Help! I'm really, really, struggling here! Will make this as short as possible. At age 9 I became a Christian and was baptized in a Southern Baptist Church. Attended unitl age 13. Moved New England. No Baptist church to walk to. Fell away. Married a Catholic. Recommited at age 40ish. Went to a Congregational church w/ a Baptist for a pastor. (great church) Recently moved further north. Absolutely amazed at what we had to choose from. Cannot find a church to fellowship in again it seems. We are totally, totally confused! Are very discouraged to find out that not only are there the SBC's and the ABC's but that the new IFBC's won't have anything to do with either of them it seems! Then we find out there are over 100 DIFFERENT Baptists! My husband, now a Christian, and I believe the Charismatic tongues and prophesing gifts decreased as the NT written Word increased. Also, don't go along with the dispensational/pre-millenium teachings that are so pervasive today. We started asking the pastors what their positions are due to so many churches with different positions. Can't get direct answers. "Come visit they say - they're non-essentials we're told." Go to visit and they're preaching on those non-essentials while they're prayers are in tongues. BUT, we can't voice our concerns that otherwise we will be DIVISIVE. We are ready to sit and watch TV. Can at least turn it off.