A bottle of wine

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A friend brings a bottle of wine to supper, and

  1. We would enjoy sharing with our guests

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  2. We would drink a little just to be sociable

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  3. We would pour a little, but not drink

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  4. We would not object to them drinking, but we would not

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  5. We would remain silent, while gritting our teeth

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  6. We would insinuate our displeasure

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  7. We would inform them we would prefer no drinking

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  8. We would prohibit any drinking

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  9. We would preach that drinking sends you to hell

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  10. Other answer

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  1. Salty

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    Suppose you invited some friends over for dinner and they brought a bottle of wine. What would you do?
     
  2. Johnv

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    I'd probably look for my wine bottle opener and put out some wine goblets.
     
  3. Thinkingstuff

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    Hear, Hear.
     
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    While I would LOVE to enjoy a nice glass of wine with guests, we've chosen to not partake of any alcoholic beverage. We would not allow others to partake in our own home as well. We had chosen to not drink when we started working with the youth and college ministry and just when we stopped working with them, my daughter's boyfriend came to us to confess that he had gotten drunk in the past and has since realized how poor a choice that was and he will not drink again in the forseeable future. My husband and I have decided to continue our abstinence in deference of this great young man.

    However, if a guest brought a bottle of wine as a gift, I'd explain the situation and ask them if they'd like to take the bottle home or if they'd like to leave it because we do cook with wine. I love cooking with it (plan to have it in our dinner tonight) so I'd be thrilled to get a free bottle. LOL
     
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    Any friends I have would know it was inappropriate to bring a bottle of wine to my house.
     
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    While I do not believe that drinking a glass of wine is a sin my wife and I have chosen out of personal conviction and in order not to be a stumbling block to abstain. So, while we would welcome our friends into our home we would, as politely as possible, ask them not to open the wine in our home. Now, if we were invited to their home, we would simply abstain with as little fanfare as possible.
     
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    Yep - same here. :)
     
  8. Salty

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    I created this post because we have invited our brand new neighbors to supper Friday evening. The subject in our very few conservations have not including alcoholic. Thus as new friends, they do not know we abstain.

    So using Matt's logic, we should not invite them until we settle the subject of wine.

    Salty
     
  9. annsni

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    I say just address it if it occurs and don't feel guilty and don't say it as if they did anything wrong. Culturally, it's a typical gift when invited to dinner so I wouldn't be surprised if they did bring one but I also wouldn't want to assume they'd bring anything so I wouldn't mention it ahead of time.

    Enjoy your dinner with your neighbors!
     
  10. Peggy

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    I think that it is ok to drink in moderation. I would enjoy the wine with my friends.
     
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    I agree Peggy but sometimes we need to choose to abstain for the sake of others, as we have. I do not think that moderate and light drinking is wrong, but for us, we are abstaining to support a young man who we highly respect. :)
     
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    Around here people are more likely to bring a spare fork. Not to mention it's a dry county.
     
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    I wouldn't call your brand new neighbors "friends". I'd call them brand new neighbors or acquaintances. Would you leave your children in the care of these new "friends"? If not, they aren't really friends.

    Friends are people I know well and they certainly would know my stance on alcohol and I would know their stance as well.

    I'll be slammed as being anti-social and not a "good" Christian, but I don't invite people over for dinner if they don't fit into what I described above as a friend.
     
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    This is pretty true for me, so it was hard to answer the OP. It would depend on who these people were. If I knew they were alcoholics or likely to get drunk, I would say I would prefer not to have wine with the meal. If they were unbelievers I had been witnessing to, I would thank them and offer them the wine but tell them I do not drink for several reasons but don't mind if they do.

    If they were Christian friends who don't know I don't drink, I would just tell them I don't drink but it's fine if they want to.
     
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    I wouldn't worry about it too much. Usually, if a person is considering what to bring a person as a gift, they typically won't bring a bottle of wine unless they reasonably know the host won't take it as offense. Now, from the POV of the host, if someone brings you a bottle of wine, it's a gift, so you should accept it politely, and then put it aside. If the topic comes up, that would be the time to bring up the fact that you don't drink alcohol. That's the better approach over having to reject someone's gift.

    I have family members who are teatotalers, who recently asked if my wife and I would like a bottle of wine that a coworker gave him as a gift. I still have it. It's a rather expensive Riesling (I've seen it for $40 a bottle), and will probably serve it at Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner.

    Oh, and on a sidenote, I can't think of a reason why a person would be offended if someone gives them a bottle of wine as a gift, even if they're teatotalers.
     
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    teatotalers.

    LOL I think I`m a TEAtotaler ...... drink mostly TEA :laugh:
     
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    No alcohol in my home. Mind you, it is a good drain cleaner. My mother poured every bottle my father had given to him down the drain. We never had a plugged drain. It may have burped now and then!

    Cheers,

    Jim
     
  18. Johnv

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    Heheh! Believe it or not, old/outdated alcohol can indeed be an effective drain cleaner, especially higher proof beverages. The alcohol content helps to dissolve the enzymes that cause particles which clog one's drain.

    Also (total off topic) cola makes a good sink and toilet bowl cleaner. The high citrus content breaks down dirt and grease. It can't be diet sodas, since diet sodas contain no citrus.
     
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    I like to swirl the wine in my cup and watch it glisten and enjoy the color......
     
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    We've ran into a very similar situation. My wife let them know that we did not allow alcohol in our house. It didn't go over very well at the time, but we were later thanked for being up front and honest about it.
     

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