Our church is very small so I double as the Adult SS teacher (12 and up) and the youth leader. I have a strange problem that I would like advice and comment on. We have a 14 year old girl who began attended our church because she was dating a member. She was saved and began to grow. Even after breaking up with the boy, she continued to faithfully attend. Even after it was obvious that she had no further interest in the boy, she continued to attend every service. We are very proud of her and blessed by her. She asks good questions. She shows evidence of growth. Her mother's religious background is Catholic though she and the girl's father have both spent time in prison for drug related offenses. They are still married. Recently, the girl and her mother came into conflict. The parents had bought the girl some clothing and a game tag to go deer hunting. The regular gun season here only lasts 11 days. The girl went on opening day but didn't tag a deer. Her dad wanted her to go again on Sunday but she refused when he wouldn't bring her back in time to attend church. The mother (who apparently controls the home) was absolutely furious. The girl was originally restricted to attending church once per week. But her mother fell asleep that night so she got her dad to bring her to church anyway. On Wednesday, she asked me what to do. I told her that she couldn't sneak around and disobey her mom. That her mom was still an authority in her life and that she must obey her. I told her to continue to ask if she can come and to pray for her mom but not to fight or rebel. Apparently now the mother has refused to allow her to come at all. I don't know all of the details but apparently she thinks we are brainwashing the girl in part because she would rather go to church than hunting if she has to make a choice. Other influences on the girl's moral outlook and beliefs are apparent to us and maybe to the parents as well. They may be offended if she is confronting them about private family sins. The mom has threatened to move the family so that the girl can't attend our church. The parents don't appear to be approachable for us at this point. Do you all have comments, opinions, or advice? Was I right in telling the girl to obey even if that obedience involves her not being allowed to attend church?