I was working with a young gentleman, that I hired to work with me in the financial services industry. After about a year of struggling he found a local Independent Fundamental Baptist church and joined. He immediately felt relieved of the pressure, as he said, I can leave everything in God's hands and stop worrying about my work. He became very involved with the church, so involved that he would work at the church some days, fixing things, help building contruction projects, etc. After a couple more months, he was invited by his pastor to go to a week long session at a big church somewhere in I think in tenn maybe. It was some kind of "see if you are called to be a precher week" and he came back from this trip ready to be a preacher. Never wanting to be critical of someone who says they are called to be a preacher, I was supportive of his plan. He had a Soul Winners Bible(It was printed on the front) and it had a place in the back to list all of the Soul's Won. We sat down several weeks later so he could share he thoughts with me. He told me how the KJV of the bible was the only one he was allowed to read(He carried it with him everywhere), now he wasn't sure why he could only use the KJV, just that that was the rules. He told me that he and his wife had to sign a list of rules that they had to follow from now on. His wife who was a aerobics instructor must now only wear a dress to work. I don't know how that is going to work out! He also had to stop listening to the radio when we went on appointments together. Couldn't go to the movie theatre to see anything, buy tv and watching the same movies on dvd was ok. He really loved country music, especially Brad Paisely, a new young country singer, but wasn't allowed to listen to him anymore. Of course, no alchohol of any kind and he wasn't allowed to socialize with people, even existing friends, who were not like minded and attended his church. His church did not accept his current bachelor's degree to continue on to taking the necessary scholling to be a preacher, so he has to go back to get another four year degree first. Well we got to talking, and although my knowledge is very poor on these matters, especially when we had the conversation, (I have since then became a voracious reader on some of these topics) I started asking him about the need for some of these rules. He wasn't really sure of all of the reasons for the rules, but he was very sure what the rules were. Something just didn't seem to sit right with all of this??? Didn't Jesus sit with the prostitutes(or something like that) to reach them, when at the time the other religious leaders would have never done so? Am I missing the point? Wasn't alot of Jesus teaches about not missing the big picture because of some silly rules or regulation? Didn't he say it's not what goes in your mouth that makes you unclean? So anyway, I got to thinking about God again for the first time in a long time, staring going to church again, watching Joel Osteen on TV on Sundays and reading my Bibles and other religious commentaries. Being a computer nut, I thought, well, maybe I should read about different bible translations on the internet, and get up to speed. So I wen't to Zondervan and read about the NIV, and about a new one coming called the TNIV. That's sounded good, so I continued my reasearch and BAM. The TNIV was getting landblasted left and right. I thought wow. So I bought 3 or 4 different books about bible translations and continued my web surfing and came across all of these KJO web sites. I even saw one with a cartoon of a NIV bible and a picture of the bible. I couldn't believe it. Something about this definately didn't jive with what I was learning about in my New Testament readings. Lots of vinegar and vile that's for sure. But I pushed on and finally decided that what made sense was a literal modern translations(long story), so I picked the ESV. Bought a bible, good to go. The I stumbled on this forum here. It was huge, and I thought boy this is great, lots of like minded people that I can learn more from reading and interacting. And they are all baptist. Well I start reading, and I am a little puzzled. Feet washing, alcohol's a sin, women can't wear pant's, your not saved if you didn't use the KJV, you can be unsaved, can't eat meat unless it's well done, can't be a female preacher, is trimming nose hair a sin, is shaving your legs a sin? I'm a little lost about what to think. I mean, I know that you guys already understand the big picture about Jesus and how to be saved, and that you are just fellowshipping by intellectually discussing the finer points. But from the outside looking in and reading the posts on this forum, it sure doesn't seem like the good news that I read in the New Testament. I mean, the Jesus that I read about in my bible(albeit not the handed down direct from God KJV) wouldn't love me any less or be dissappointed if I drank one beer(which I don't). I'm pretty sure as I try to lead my wife to learn about God, that he'd be ok if she wore bluejeans to church as well. Just to pick one example, I'm pretty sure that I could read the NIV, drink one beer everyday and my wife and I wear bluejeans to church every sunday, and as long as we earnest seek Jesus we'll be ok. Am I wrong? AM I WRONG? We''l if that is the case, why all the moaning about all these things? Shouldn't we instead use all of this wasted energy sharing Jesus with people who don't already know him? I really enjoy spending time reading the posts on this forum, because I do learn some things from so of the posts, but I can't help but wonder if reading all of the other stuff isn't more destructive than good. Do you know there are 168 messages in just one post on "Is braiding your hair and wearing jewelry ok"? Does that make sense to all of you or am I just a nut? Did Jesus every make a proactive statement about jewelry and hair braiding? Or was he too busy focusing on the big stuff? I called my wife's aunt today, a very strong christian who reads her Bible everyday. She is a pentacostal holliness and I inquired which Bible she used. She said the KJV. I asked her why, she said that she wasn't familiar with any others. I asked her didn't she find it difficult to understand with all of the Old English wording? She proudly exclaimed that if she faithfully studied her Bible that God would reveal what the scriptures meant. So if she is faithfull in her walk with God, he will overcome the 400 year old language differences, so she can understand the words that would have been crystal clear to the all people in Jesus time who were hearing them. Is this what it we make it all about. A good christian, God fearing, loving, Bible believing, Jesus is the most important thing in this woman's life - feels that she has to study a Bible translated over 400 years ago, in a vesion of English, common for the time, but uncommon now, and hope she is led to understand what it even says. Even the people alive during Jesus time didn't have to jump through those hoops. Jesus spoke plain and clear. I leave you with one more thought, I just read in another post, The Clothing worn must meet the test of separation from the world. I'm not sure that I can do that. Heck I'm not sure I even know what that means. I wear nice clothes, don't have alot of money, pretty much what my wife buys me at Walmart. And I always zip my zipper when leaving the restroom. Is that enough? Are there special christian clothes? Do I need to reasearch the companies that I buy clothes from? I WAN'T TO BE A PART OF THE WORLD I'VE READ ABOUT IN MY NEW BIBLE. ABOUT THE JESUS THAT I'VE READ ABOUT. I DON'T WANT TO BE A PART OF THE NONSENSE. Thanks for reading my post.