Have you, or do you ever take pause or even fear having children? As a parent I cannot think of anything more horrible than the thought that my children would go to hell rather than spend eternity in heaven. Before anyone misunderstands what I am saying, I am not in anyway saying that being a Calvinist will send anyone to hell. But if you believe it is completely out of their hands and already predetermined if they are saved, does that give you any reservation about have children? I mean if no amount of guiding or teaching on your part will have any effect on them, does it give you concern? Especially a large family, the more children you have that is just increasing the odds that one might not be saved. If it is all set already that means no prayers for them will matter (in regard to salvation), you really would have no influence on them at all. I know I cannot save my children, but I like to think I can raise them up right in order they be exposed to the truth. I can pray daily for them and believe God will hear my prayers and draw them to Him. I am genuinely curious, I am not trying to insult anyone. I would appreciate if this doesn't turn into insults or name calling, just honest feelings on the topic. Thanks in advance for your replies.