A Woman's Place

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  1. Refreshed

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    I fully acknowledge the topic of this thread will be controversial, but I was just curious:

    What is your stand with regards to the Biblical married woman's responsibilities and duties toward her husband, children (if she has any) and God?

    The reason I ask this in this forum is because I am an Independent Fundamental Baptist and wanted to briefly survey the opinions of those who post on this board.

    Thanks.
     
  2. Repent-or-Burn

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    God First, Husband Second, Children Third.
     
  3. annsni

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    I don't quite line it up as #1, #2, #3 because, after all, there are times the children will come ahead of my husband and God isn't a priority - He's Lord of all.

    That said, in my duties, my first priority is my family - both my husband and my children. I am to lovingly submit to my husband and lovingly sacrifice for and lead my children. It is my job to work with my husband in his ministry and God has provided ministry for me that compliments and adds to my husband's ministry. If my ministry takes away from my responsibilities towards my family, then there is something wrong and I need to re-evaluate what I am THINKING is my ministry.

    So, a woman's place is alongside her husband with her children right there around her. :)
     
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    A woman's duty is to God, first and foremost.

    A woman is to be submissive to her husband, but that does not mean she is to be a doormat. As Ann said, her ministry should be to her husband and family before any others outside of the family.
     
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    A husband is the head of the house, but the place of a woman (or for that matter, a man) is wherever the two prayerfully and in full agreement decide those places are to be. No controversy whatsoever.
     
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    Do you mean that she SUBMITS and obeys even if they disagree?

    Because, that is the requirement. Unless he is leading her to Sin.
     
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    In a chauvensitic male society where prejudice towards women dominated anything goes. Hopefully, praise God, we have developed socially.

    Cheers,

    Jim
     
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    Responsibilities and duties. Hmmm.

    I am IFB. I believe my duty as a female is to submit to my husband, and he is to submit to me. One to another. In matters where we cannot agree, he has the final word, and thus the final responsibility. Which is cool, because it's not going to be disagreed on unless it's a tough subject, and if it's tough, the results of being wrong are not something I want the responsibility for. hehehe

    As a mother, I believe all women, unless there is no logical way possible, should be able to take their babies to work or stay at home until they are done with the phase of nursing, potty training, etc. and are old enough to have started implementing Christian ways of thinking and acting.

    I am not against a woman working and a man staying home. I am against a woman being the spiritual leader in the home if she is married.

    I've heard a few things in regards to women working. One is that women can't handle the stress of the workplace on top of their duties at home. My response to that is this: if their husbands are not working, they should be cleaning the house, making meals, and doing laundry at home if they are physically capable. What I saw the other day on television is absolutely correct...women are not exhausted because they can't handle working outside the home, they're exhausted because they can't handle fulfilling society's prejudiced view of a woman's place and duties on top of another full time job!

    I am blessed with a sweet husband who is allowing me to work. He knows I want to, and he even offered to learn to cook. But I love to cook, so I haven't taught him yet. hehehe I might later though...
     
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    Good woman, Gina! Lucky man you have.

    Glad to see someone following the commands of submission and not the Evil culture of equallity. (We are equal, but with different ROLES.)
     
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    I would say another one would be that the husband and wife have decided that it was an issue of the wife taking orders from a man other than her own husband.
     
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    There's a reason why I am not married.

    I, honestly and without intent of malice on this board, could not do it.

    And God knows that. And I know that he is disappointed in me. And I know that I have grieved the Holy Spirit.

    Being single hasn't always been a picnic, but I would make a Christian man a very, very unhappy husband. And, knowing that I made him unhappy, would make me miserable.

    I don't have it in me to be submissive. It's a grievous character flaw and a spiritual deficiency. But it's who I am. I'm not proud of it. I'm not bragging. It's embarrassing.

    But, to the original poster, I don't believe in woman's "place" as defined by strict fundamentalist Christians.

    I believe that a husband and wife are one flesh. Meeting each other's needs. He leads in love and she supports and relieves with respect.

     
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    Titus 2 has the answer to that. My question is, what is the man's place?

    I find it interesting that so many IFB's emphasize the woman's place while overlooking the MAN"S place. If a man is truly fulfilling his duties as the loving leader of his home, loving his wife as Christ loves the church, the woman cannot help but submit and then EVERYONE will be in harmony. There would be no need to debate it, or stress it, or ask other people's opinions about it, because when the man is right with God, the rest of the family will follow.
     
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    The husband is not to be a tyrant or demand obedience; that is not biblical. The woman submits willingly. This all needs to be done in love - love naturally surrenders and submits. This is what the NT teaches.

    If a man loves and serves his wife as the Bible directs him, his wife will be more apt to want to follow his lead as the spiritual head and submit to him. They both have their parts and roles.
     
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    Oh no ladies, this isn't the place to discuss the man's place. Don't get prideful. :D
     
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    No, because that's no scriptural. The call for a wife to submit to her husband is not a call for her to obay what he says. In a healthy marriage, both submit to each other, as they would to Christ. Both are to love each other, as Christ loves the Church. A husband is the spiritual head, but Christ (not the husband) is the head of the house.

    As far as disagreements, the two are one. On matters that affect the household, both should be in agreement. If they are not in agreement, then the two are not one.
     
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    Troll alert!
     
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    John, we've dabbled in this discussion already and I still don't follow you. Are you saying no decision is to be made?
     
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    The two are still one. Have you ever had a war going on inside of you where you just cannot make a decision? See? It happens when one is one. It happens even more frequently when we're dealing with two sinful people even if they are both saved. It happens. It's happened in my own home - not frequently but it HAS happened. It happens when one is not focusing on God - or God hasn't made it clear the path we should take and so our humanness comes in. But God is faithful and honors my submission to my husband and has changed my husband's heart when I was actually right. But to say when there is disagreement that the two are not one, that's oversimplifying it a LOT.
     
  19. Johnv

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    I admit, it is. I was referring to the attitude of the husband makes the decisions and the wife is supposed to simply do what he says. In that situations, the two are not one, the two are two. Most Godly marriage, however, don't live like that, thankfully.
    If the two don't agree, then the decision is to keep the status quo until there is agreement between the two.
     
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    Quite frankly that's sometimes impossible.
     

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