An open letter on posts

Discussion in '2003 Archive' started by NaasPreacher (C4K), Nov 9, 2003.

  1. NaasPreacher (C4K)

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    I realise that I am quite new to this forum and therefore maybe I do not understand all of the complexities. I am grateful for the new friends I am made and for the work of the moderators. I have already enjoyed some sweet fellowship and had some fun.

    However I am quite concerned about the tenor of some of the posts and some of the posters. I think if we all just followed the guidelines we would solve the problems. Some thoughts have crossed my mind that I try to incorporate into my posts and wonder what you all think about them. The moderators cannot possibly hope to police every post. I think that is our job as members of the forum and perhaps these few thoughts might help.

    Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children; And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet smelling savour. But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks. (Ephesians 5:1-4 KJV)

    Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.
    (KJV) Colossians 4:6

    And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret. (Ephesians 5:11-12 KJV)

    Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: (Ephesians 4:26 KJV)

    And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. (Ephesians 4:32
    KJV)


    We could go on and on. Since I joined this forum about three weeks ago many posts have violated these simple principles. I am all for lively debate and discussion, but everyone here professes to be a Christian and an adult. Is it not possible for us to discuss and debate without being mean, crude, and offensive. Is name calling EVER necessary? Must we be crude and use shock value to make a point? These are the tools of the world. I belong to a sports forum where more respect is shown for other posters than some members show here.

    I wasn’t sure where to post this, so put it here in “All other discussions.” Am I out of line? Am I missing the point of a forum?
     
  2. Jim1999

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    This is prolly the least effective place to put this letter. This happens to be the most friendly, least offensive site on the computer.

    I do understand your thinking though. People, even Christians, differ in opinion, attitude and expression of thought, and this list of forums is no different. It is so in many churches, and it is so in society at large.

    Cheers,

    Jim
     
  3. I Am Blessed 24

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    Good Morning Roger!

    Basically everything you have said is found, either in our SOF, or the posting rules. I think some people join without ever reading those.

    But everyone does not ACT like they are...

    There is a 'report post' button at the bottom of each post. Please feel free to use it when you see this kind of activity. It alerts the moderators so appropriate action can be taken.

    Some people are just not happy unless they are arguing and starting a fuss. Most of the threads get hijacked and completely off topic.

    The moderators try, but, as you said we can't read every post. That's why we depend on the members to help us. Either pm a moderator or use the 'report post' function. It is a great help to us when the members police themselves.

    If you would like your thread moved to a forum where you would get more responses, please PM me and I will move it for you.

    Blessings,
    §ue
     
  4. Dr. Bob

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    If more do speak out, condemning the rule breakers for their bitter vitriolic and hate speech, it would give a point.

    Simply post a reply saying you did not appreciate the tenor of the post. Yes, even mine if my sarcasm gets too ascerbic. :eek:
     
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    Christ4Kildare, I agree with your post. I used to post much the same thing once upon a time.

    God bless you for having the desire to ask us all to remember that we Christians agreed to the posting rules before we became members here. And thank you for the admonishment to remember the Lord's word in our words and in our deeds towards each other.

    I offer this challenge to all the members here.
    #1 read the posting rules again.
    #2 decide to follow them no matter what.

    I give you my oath. I will not be part of the problem. I will be part of the solution. You have my word.

    In Christ,
    Wisdom Seeker

    Link to Baptist Board Posting Rules
     
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    C4K,

    My dittos. There are several pretty mean-spirited exchanges here, but I would add, as a note of optimism, that such posts can generally be attributed to a handful of posters, whom I try to avoid and simply ignore. There are also a few who are generally pretty respectful but who sometimes lapse into sarcasm. And I admit I've not been perfect in that regard either. Which is also why I thank you for the gentle reminder.
     
  7. Watchman

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    My Ditto's too.
    God help us to control our sinful nature and reflect the love of Christ, here, and to everyone.
     
  8. HankD

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    Sometimes...

    Matthew 23:33 Ye serpents, ye generation of vipers, how can ye escape the damnation of hell?
     
  9. NaasPreacher (C4K)

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    Are any of us as qualified to judge as the speaker in that quote?
     
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    No...but aren't we supposed to have the same mind? (Philipians 2:5)
     
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    There is certainly a line that should be drawn. I think the moderators do a good job in judging each post on its own merits.

    Ideas, and communication is what we must have freedom to express in this forum. Name calling, or other personal attacks have no room in communication or exchange of ideas. Even though ideas can offend others, it is not the same as a personal attack.

    Being crude or using bitter language is an expression the helps convey an idea in some situations while in others, it doesn't help. In those cases, it becomes a moderators duty to decide when it has been used appropriately. And I think the moderators have done a great job. We can and should expect a wider latitude in the debate forum than in any other forum.
     
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    In that context the mind of Christ was humility.
     
  13. I Am Blessed 24

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    We are to "be angry and sin not" like Christ did in the temple .

    Christ had righteous anger.

    How many posters can say, when they are name-calling on here, that their anger is righteous and coming from a Christ-like mind? :(
     
  14. Nomad

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    The last two posts sum it up pretty well for me. There are too many Christians who are citing the occasional strong language used by Jesus (or Paul) to justify their own personal attacks on those who disagree with them, often on matters not clearly spelled out in Scripture. Humility is sadly lacking in many debates carried on between believers, and we have to ask ourselves if we are truly honoring Him in these heated exchanges.
     
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    Personally, I have found the use of crude or rude language to be very distasteful, and to show the true ignorance of the user. I much prefer to articulate my thoughts in a way that takes the receiver a moment or two to figure out exactly how he has been ...de-notched (I need the running head start :D ). Unfortunately, my teenage daughter has learned how to do this, as well...

    In Christ,
    Trotter
     
  16. Bob Farnaby

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    Agree with the general sentiments expressed, and do think the moderators do great job.
    A couple of issues that sometimes give lead to misunderstandings are
    1 the different use of 'English' in different countries, sometimes words or expressions that are perfectly acceptable in one country can be offensive in another, - just the cultural usage.
    2 the different church backgrounds, even amongst "baptists". the things that are accepted as normal change. (not talking about the absolutes of scripture, but the way it affects order and social action)

    Regards
    Bob
     

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