(Notice: Longer than a sound bite) I was recently accused of being a “fear-monger” by my pastor. This was a knee-jerk reaction/response to my proposal of beefing up our by-laws to include certain language regarding our recent Supreme Court Decision regarding marriage. (I do suppose some of the individual members of this court are of the misguided opinion they will be exempt from that Final Judgment but that's another story) Well, this response went on me like a skillet full of hot gravy. Fully realizing my weaknesses and flaws in that I'm not a Yale graduate, I decided to seek the definition of the word..., “monger”. As it applies here the word refers to one who promotes a specified activity, situation, or feeling, especially one that is undesirable or discreditable. Okay. So what's the problem here? Why “wuz” I subjected to such an immediate and hostile resistance to typing up a Statement of Faith or, incorporating language into our by-laws detailing our position on marriage? It did take a few days to sort it all out as I am a bit introverted. Come to find out, a woman who is married to a heavy duty mover and shaker of our church has a son that is..., “that way” but lives in another city. Notice, I said a woman who is married to this man..., her son is not his. (In keeping with the Justice's, that's another story) I then discover the daughter of another who sits securely in a seat of the church hierarchy has a daughter that would certainly have no interest in the son of the other woman if he was straight as she currently resides with her girlfriend. (Another story) Let me say that I recognize that once our off-spring(s) age to adulthood we lose control of and often, all influence over their lives. The path(s) they take is of their doing(s) so I'm not pointing a finger at the above mentioned woman or man. I certainly don't hold them responsible and, truth be known ALL OF US have those of that same persuasion in our extended families. My daughter, a Christian School Teacher told recently of a conversation with a woman who was raised in a Baptist Church, married, had kids, divorced and now has switched to the other side. She spoke of having prayed and prayed to God about her choice but could not discern any response. Obviously, she was confused and apparently was but seeking His approval, or His understanding. Well, His answer has already been provided to us. End of subject! So, with all of this said it does appear that MY church refuses to address the matter simply because it would “offend” other members. To me, the truth should not offend as it's the truth! It seems to me that those controllers within MY church dance around the subject under the impression that if it's out sight..., it's out mind..., and just maybe the problem will go away. No, problems don't “go away”..., they only manifest. To me, this willingness to abstain from the entire Gospel waters down the real purpose of the church and specifically hinders the Holy Spirit. I don't think I need to attend that church any longer. I do believe that almost ALL local and rural church are of the same mentality and if someone were to open any closet door..., skeletons would come tumbling out all over the place. I told my wife the other day that should I resign my membership in that church..., I'll never join another one. My God..., satan appears to be in control!!! ...are we just playing church?