I just got a call from a young man and he wants to talk to me and I know what it about. I'm not ready for this, but apparently they are. I think they're pretty young for this but will admit both of them are very mature for their ages. My daughter forewarned me that was probably coming and I asked why not wait, at least until college is done, but she pulled the "today's traditional values about waiting don't apply to her" card out on me as if using my own words against me. (We've had many talks about not following in the ways/traditions of the world.) She just turned 21 and has 1 1/2 years of college left to finish her bachelors and is planning to go straight on into getting her masters. She goes to college for free on an academic scholarship and has a good job in the college administration office working with foreign exchange students doing cultural counseling and stuff. He is strongly Christian, well mannered, polite and respectful. He will be graduating college after this semester at the age of 20, ...yes 20! He also has a job at Intel and is making 70k already...kind of a golden boy this kid is... He is from Bolivia, moving here at age 8, and has a proper sounding Spanish accent, taller but similar in looks and mannerism to that of Antonio Banderas. :laugh: Anyway, I don't know what to do or to say. You often hear a daughter marries someone like her father, but I would say this is certainly not the case here. Okay, she's my baby girl still with her life in front of her, I admit that sharing her and her devoting herself to another and putting him as a priority in her life troubles me. I don't want anything to interfere with her ambitions, she is exceptional and has great potential to achieve great things. Yet, she says he will support her in whatever she wants she wants to do. She thinks it will be fun, certainly different from than the plans of most her peers - being young, not waiting to get married and attending full time college.. This is my most prized possession in the world that this guy is about to ask to take off my hands! When I look at my daughter I often wonder how on earth I this kid ever came from the likes of me, but I also know God heard my prayers about my struggles and fears about raising a child and He answered them and guided me through this with great blessings. She met him a couple years ago and would tell me about him discussing Christian things with him, his parents were/are non-practicing Mormons but he found tha to be a false religion through reading the Bible on his own (Hmm, I guess maybe there is a touch of likeness to me after all in that reading the Bible on his own it brought him to know God.) My daughter became friends with him while she was dating another guy that was 26 and she being very mature for her age brushed off her friend as too young but liked his values and talking about Christianity with him. It was me that reminded her about boys usually being slower to mature but catching up later and also told her that I expected he had interests in her and that I wouldn't "burn any bridges". :tonofbricks: She and I both thought it would difficult for her to find someone who shared her Christian values which included maintaining purity going into marriage and on that note I can understand why these two might not want to wait. I didn't even grow up with a Dad and never heard of how this (hand asking) things goes or should go other than what I've seen in the movies. I'm not even sure what to advise in this situation as I try to put my feelings and worries aside for her best interests. Any suggestions?