Baptists Should Only Marry Baptists

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  1. ktn4eg

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    II Corinthians 6:14 tells us not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers, and I would assume that this would especially apply in seeking out a marriage partner.

    I once heard a Baptist preacher say something to the effect that born-again Baptists should only marry born-again Baptists.

    Do you think he was right?
     
  2. matt wade

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    I'm a Baptist for a particular reason. I believe that the Baptist doctrine is correct. Why would I want to marry (for the record I'm already married) someone that didn't believe in the same doctrine I did? Why would I want to complicate my life, the life of my wife, and the life of my children?
     
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    No. It almost seems as if he was implying that nonbaptist were not saved.

    Now, as Matt said, it's probably a good idea since if not there would be a lot if doctrinal issues. Unless of course the person was independent (like some "Bible" churches that are really close to baptist). My sister goes to a Bible church and she and her husband are both baptist in doctrine.

    so that verse is not a good proof text for that.
     
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    I didn't...and my wife is graciously saved.

    This kind of Trail of Blood thinking is just ridiculous.
     
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    I'm Waiting for Iconoclast to...

    ...weigh in! While I have no problem with whom I marry so long as they are a believer, being of my preferred denomination is not that important, as time and experience(s) may move one, or both of us away from that particular theology/denominational preference.

    As we clearly see, there is a great many sects of Baptist on this forum, and maybe our hearts will be softened, or hardened later in life, causing us to move to another sect or another denomination, all together!

    So what we believe early in life may eventually divide us later. Thus, it is more important to me that we are both ROOTED in Christ, and that we move forward from there! :type:
     
  6. matt wade

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    Does your wife go to your Baptist church with you? What denomination was your wife?
     
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    Don't know about the "unequally yoked" bit being applicable but Amos 3:3 suggests we might be wise to marry someone whose theology is close to our own. I would not have married my wife if she were not a Baptist. How would we raise our children? What would we teach them? Sound Theology is important to me, and I would want to marry someone whose Theology is similar to mine. If I married a paedobaptist, how would we respond when we had children? It would be wise I think to stick to marrying a Baptist or someone of like faith if not mandatory.
     
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    It is a major leap I think to to suggest that someone who dislikes the idea of marrying a non-baptist is subsequently to be automatically thrown in with the "Trail of Blood" crowd
     
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    I'm Waiting for Iconoclast to...

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    ...weigh in!
    Here you go.....

    Everything Dude says is wonderful:1_grouphug:

    Dude can never express error:wavey:

    In proverbs it says a wise man receives correction.....but Dude never needs correction as he waits to "move in the gifts,and experience the shekinah glory:thumbs:

    Dude is a special person....his take alone is above reproach....no need to comment , as Dude has spoken:love2:
     
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    When better half and I married, 45 years ago, we were of different denominations. Neither one was Baptist. In a little over a week, it'll be the anniversary of our first visit to the Baptist church we're now attending. Within a few months of that first visit, we became Baptists. Joined the church, I was baptised by immersion (sprinkled originally as a teen), and now we are very active in our church ministries.

    When we were married, we were yoked together as believers in Christ. However, we were still unequally yoked to some extent. That's no longer, the case today.

    I believe the Lord led us to this point, as we listened to the whisper from the Holy Spirit guiding us to become equally yoked in our faith.

    Yes, it was important that we were ROOTED in Christ and we HAVE moved forward from there. Praise the Lord and give HIM the glory for what He's doing in our lives, today.
     
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    Is it "Trail of Blood thinking", though? Although I wouldn't go so far as to say that a baptist shouldn't marry a non-baptist, (and I certainly do not believe that the "unequally yoked" verse prohibits baptists marrying non-baptists), I do see various problems in such a marriage. Two examples:

    Benjamin Baptist marries Penelope Paedobaptist. They both truly know the Lord Jesus Christ. When they return from their honeymoon, which local church will they join? Ben's or Penny's? If you say, "Well, they could go to the baptist church one Sunday, and the paedobaptist church the next," that is only about church attendance, not church membership. How could Benjamin be a loyal member of his church if he his away 50% of the time? The same for Penny.

    Later, the couple have children. Penny believes that they should be "baptised" as babies, but Ben holds that baptism is only for believers. What do they do? However much they love each other, there is no "half-way house" on this matter.
     
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    Not What I Hoped For...

    ....but if that's what you want to express :

    I had hoped you had some thoughts on this that would provide some leaven to the thought of the OP, really! :1_grouphug:
     
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    There are other churches that are theologically sound as well, so I'd not say they needed to be Baptist. Heck my daughter dated a Baptist and it turned out really bad. I want a strong Bible believer for my daughters. I personally married a Presbyterian and it has worked out pretty well so far.....
     
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    Dude,
    i wanted to make sure I did not say anything that was in any way negative.
    I thought you dislike what I post...why do you want my ideas.????

    1] Pray and ask God to provide a Godly mate.

    2] The closer you are theologically the better.

    3]For a man...you seek a proverbs 31 woman, who is teachable

    4] For a woman, you seek a man who trusts the Lord with a singlemindedness,and shows some signs that he can lead a wife,and godly household.

    5]Spend time discussing the issues scripturally as you spend time together. Just because someone profess something does not mean they are the real deal.

    6] Do not expect sinless perfection...see the person in joyful times,and times of stress.

    7] Baptists should seek other baptists.....Reformed Baptists, Reformed Baptists likewise.....otherwise the wife might have trouble submitting to her husband ,if the differences are to vast.

    8] You could marry a believer with some differences theologically....but this would take a lot of extra work.

    9] Some wives do not seem to follow after theology as much as the men. We do have some godly women here who post...but it seems that many of the women seem content to stay at a shallow level, and like martha and mary..some focus on other things.

    10] Sometimes the men have not set the right tone in the relationship from the start......perhaps paying more attention to the physical attributes of the potential wife, baptist or not....and are now trying to reset things now that they are married...but this is not the biblical pattern...Seek first the kingdom of God...

    11} if a couple cannot have a good pattern of discussing scripture and serving God before they are married, getting married will not fix it all the time,and sometimes it will make it worse.

    12} I cannot imagine why anyone would want to be unequally yoked....in any sense...particularly as you get older....Young people sort of get tempted to a compromise situation.....like marrying a nominal professor, because they are sometimes lonely, or the hormones are raging a bit....this leads to the error of missionary dating..ie, well she does not seem to do much with scripture now...but if we get married, then she will change.......NO.
     
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    I find it funny that both of you think the "trail of blood crowd" label is a prejorative... I used to be in that crowd... Both my wife and myself.

    What about two Baptists marying but one is cal and one is arm?
     
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    Good post Icon! :thumbsup:
     
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    It could turn out to be like the C/A debates on the BB! :eek:

    :laugh:
     
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    Pretty much the situation of Billy and Ruth Bell Graham. She was Presbyterian all her life; did not join the Baptist church Billy pastored briefly near Wheaton; had her babies sprinkled at her church, etc.
     
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    #20 Scarlett O., Mar 20, 2012
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