I have not become a member of my wife's church and remain a member of my former Baptist Church in SC and for one major reason and that is their position on alcohol. My wife's church thinks its some deep sin to even have a sip and will not allow liberty in this area. My previous church did not go that far and gave people liberty. I am a regular attender, but I cannot bow to the membership of a church that takes such a militant view on alcohol and all of this without looking at the evidences in the book God Gave Wine which I have been reading. I know its sad and my wife is madly in love with the church, but I just do not wish to lie or to bow to the wishes of someone that wants to control me and act as the Holy Spirit. So I guess indefinitely I will be a regular attender and not a member. Its really too bad.... I can still tithe even not a member.