Being Young

Discussion in 'Youth Forum' started by christiangirl4life, Jul 20, 2003.

  1. christiangirl4life

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    Who likes being young? Would you rather be old and pay the bills and be a mom. I know I would like being a kid. Well let me know!
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  2. InTheNameOfLove

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    I like bring young, because too many adults don't know how to laugh, and enjoy life. I hope I don't become one of them. Life is too precious.
     
  3. MissAbbyIFBaptist

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    I just take it a day at a time. If God allows me to grow into adulthood, He'll give me grace for it when I need it. I just pray I keep my sense of humor! As many nutty and emberrising things I've managed to get myself into, a sense of humor is a blessing!
    I hope I still love people...all people, not just the saved and kind...with a passion then. I hope I still hold to the simple faith that no metter what my Lord is gonna help me.
    I hope I grow in the Lord as I get older, and that He will continue to mature me.
    And I dont' say these thing to brag {cause they ain't much about me worth braggin on cept what my Lord did for me.} but to help ya see what I hope I can still be even when I'm grown.
    ~Miss Abby [​IMG]
     
  4. christiangirl4life

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    Thanks you two for writing! Great answers!
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  5. UnashamedYouth

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    I think maturity is a good thing... but I'm not looking forward to moving out and getting a job LOL
     
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    INTHENAMEOFLOVE... I agree with you, adults DON'T know how to laugh and have fun.

    Kay Dee [​IMG]
     
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    I'm not ready to move out or get a job either
    :rolleyes:

    I've got a lot of time ahead of me. :D I'm only 14. [​IMG]

    TFC [​IMG]
     
  8. UnashamedYouth

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    Maturity and growing up are two seperate things... I'm all for being Mature... but I'm not looking forward to figuring out how to pay bills... a full time job... taxes or anything like that LOL [​IMG]
     
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    Maybe a lot of these adults you speak of don't laugh because they are saddled with the stresses of providing an enjoyable life with all laughs included for someone such as yourself. Being an adult is stressful and uncertain at times, but I myself would never want to return to my youth again. I dont feel any older now than i did when I was 17, although I look older and finally understand why my parents were always taking those afternoon naps. By all means enjoy your youth because it will pass quickly, moreso than you will expect. But don't have an aversion to growing up. I enjoy life and probably appreciate it more now than I did when I was a teenager. I do enjoy it in a different way. Where I once used to cruise town for hours on end with no real purpose in mind I now view it as a worthless waste of gas. I'd rather go fishing in the mountains or take a weekend and build and improve on my house. You usually don't have the luxury of those choices when you are young, because most important choices are made for you by your parents and you dont have any money. Thats an advantage of being an adult. You can live your life on your terms. The stress increases but so do the rewards. There are many adventures in life that most people who are young haven't realized and won't until the rose colored glasses are removed and they can look at their lives in perspective. You will have disdain for many of the things you do now, but some things you will fondly remember.
     
  10. UnashamedYouth

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    whomever said adults don't know how to laugh or have fun obviously have strange relationships with adults... my dad will be 50 in another month and he has TONS of fun and laughs... my whole church is full of adults who know how to have fun...
     
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    Okay, so technically I'm an adult, but I'm still young. I have plenty of responsibilities (like paying the bills ;) ), but that doesn't mean my life has stopped. Life isn't about paying bills -- you pay the bills in order to pave the way for your life. A lot of people forget that and focus on the paving rather than the road.

    It's interesting to hear the perspectives of younger people about what it's like to be older. I hear a lot of the "no fun or laughs" comments, and it makes me wonder what happens to some people to make them so dour. Certainly, there are stresses that come along with having responsibility, but I can't imagine living a life without joy.

    Further, life is more than paying bills and cleaning up after babies. We aren't pod people! ;) I know it's hard to see it that way sometimes, but for some of you younger people, wait till you leave home and watch what happens to your parents. Changes abound, and not just in their relationship with you. They rediscover each other and redevelop their independent lives. My age peers and I have noticed it, and it's wonderful. They stop being just "parent," and go back to being "man" or "woman." It's hard to think of our parents as people, because, well, they're our parents. And we get our perspective on what it's like to be adults from our parents, but we really only see a part of the picture. My point is just that being older is more than housekeeping and baby raising. That's not all we do. [​IMG] Take me - I'm not a mom, and have no desire to be. People say I'll "grow out of" that, but you know, I'm 26, and that clock just ain't ticking.

    If all you're seeing are adults with no zeal, then you need new examples. Really.
     
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    stubbornkelley,

    Don't let people pressure you into thinking you have to be a mother. For the longest time I didn't want to get married or even date. People kept telling I should get married soon because I am getting older (I turn 35 on Sunday!) but I didn't feel like getting married or even dating for the longest time. I just figured if God wanted me to get married then it will happen in good time. If I don't married until I'm 50, I am ok with that.
     
  13. Sherrie

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    Well I am not old...but I pay bills. And I tell my grandkids, and Kids.....stay young and enjoy life to its fullest. You are only this age once. I do not mean go out a be corrupt. But your just a child, or a teen. Why burden yourself down with being anything else.

    You will have a life time of being older and paying bills. But you will not always have your youth. Being a mommy does not make you older. It only makes you still young and being a mommy! There are so many things out there in this world for you to see and know...so that when and if it is the right time for you to be settled and married, and children you will be ready.

    The only thing you should be worried about is school and friends. And maybe a part time job. You will have plenty of time to be grown up later!

    Sherrie
     
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    Oh, no worries there. [​IMG]
     
  15. T.U.L.I.P.

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    From the oldest of 10 kids, I guess you could say I was born old. I've had large amounts of responsibility ever since I can remember, and I guess I would be one of those types that you could say I don't know how to have a good time. Let me say that being goofy, funny, or just laughing is not necessarily the most pleasurable thing to many people. The satisfaction of accomplishment and and completing a single challenging task is worth 100 days of watching TV, playing games, laughing at good jokes, etc.

    I'm a violinist and a chessplayer, both of which can hardly be considered fun or entertaining, but are highly satisfying activities. Life is similar-not necessarily entertaining but the satisfaction of conquering life is what drives adults, and just because one hasn't cracked a smile in a week doesn't mean that he/she is not enjoying life at it's best.
     
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    They can't? If you don't think so, why on earth do you do them? As hobbies, I mean. I understand your point, but a natural and physical sign of happiness is a pleasant attitude and a smile. When I don't see those, at least a little, I wonder how happy or satisfied a person really is, no matter what they may say. If chess and the violin aren't enjoyable hobbies, why not pick some that are, and that you can accomplish high goals with just as well?

    But I'm also weird - I like chess, and though the violin isn't my instrument, I'm a singer, so know the relative boredome of practice, but the exhilaration of a good performace -- after which I do smile. Because I'm happy I accomplished it, and genuinely enjoyed the process.
     
  17. T.U.L.I.P.

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    I admit, that statement was rather exaggerated but when I was referring to fun, I was talking about in the sense that most teenagers think of fun-as watching TV and hanging out with friends is "fun".

    Furthermore, my point was that although my hobbies are not necessarily "fun", they are nevertheless infinitely more enjoyable than anything that can be strictly considered "fun".

    Perhaps I'm making a distinction that other people don't. I suddenly get the feeling that I"m talking too much again..... [​IMG]
     
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    Keep in mind that your priorities can and do change. I had a friend who abhored children so much that she vowed never to have them. All of her relationships with guys eventually ended because they wanted children and knew that she didn't. She stayed single enjoying a pretty happy life...that is until most of her friends got married and subsequently dropped out of the "swingin single" lifestyle to take care of families of their own. Carrie was then left in that wasteland of being a woman in her mid thirties and single. She not only had to contend with the fact that as a potential mate she was pretty set in her ways, but that she now had to compete for the affections of men with younger candidates who were not starting to show their age as she (thats not coming from me but from her own lips). Eventually as she grew lonlier and felt more excluded form society she longed for what she had evaded - marriage and particularly, children.
    Even if you are married and want no children that often chages as marriages and the people in them go through stages and, at any particular stage, exhaust the opportunities available to them.
     
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    I AGREE with ya there. I don't understand those who think adults don't laugh or have fun. Adults are human ya know. To tell ya the truth I don't believe ill mind growing old..at least im not in the same state of life all the time..that would get boring and uninteresting, no? ;) [​IMG]
    Look forward to life, so many great experiences to enjoy..not just in youth:)
    Have fun while your ALIVE. Then you'll still have fun after death too(or when the Rapture happens, whenever God wants! ;) [​IMG] )
    In HEAVEN! :D Talk about things to look forward to! [​IMG] [​IMG]
     

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