boarding schools for Christians?

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  1. abcgrad94

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    I'd like to know your thoughts on this subject. Would you suport "missionaries" whose job consisted of teaching Christian kids in a boarding school? This is a school specifically for missionaries' chilren whose parents are currently on the field. Also, would you support missionaries who send their children (elementary or older) to a boarding school while they minister on the mission field?

    I have my own thoughts about the matter, but I'd like to see some other viewpoints.
     
  2. Salty

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    Here is a link to the Black Forest Christian School in Germany.
    http://www.bfacademy.com/


    You question if a Christian school teacher on the field is a "missionary".

    I contend that a missionary is God's man doing God's work in God's place at God's time. With that definition, yes a teacher at a mission school is a missionary.

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    Thanks, Salty. I guess I'm wondering how people feel about Christians sending their kids to boarding schools, especially while in the ministry. This question has come up at church and I'd like to hear different views about it.

    For instance, I have a friend whose parents are missionaries and she's turned her back on God, basically because her parents sent her off while they ministered elsewhere. On the other hand, I know of kids who would be unhappy/unsafe once they reached their teen years, especially if their parents are ministering in a muslim area.

    So, do you think boarding schools are a good thing and churchs should support the idea of their missionaries using them?
     
  4. LeBuick

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    I believe it multiplies the sacrifice they have made for their God and their beliefs. No greater Love than a man who would give his life for a friend.
     
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    Personally, I don't think that we should sacrifice our children in the name of missions. God has given US our children to raise and it was a rare case when a child is raised by someone else in Scripture (thinking of Samuel and Moses here). I've also heard of many missionary kids who have strayed from God because they were sent away from home at a young age. I can't even begin to imagine how that would be - I'm WAY too close to my children to go away from them like that for even a night - forget a year or a few!
     
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    There are times and places though when I might consider this . . .

    If I felt called to someplace dangerous. We had some friends who went to Chad. It was tough on everyone. I'd never say never.
     
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    If I may, my other little sis...
    She turned her back on God because she wanted to. No one forced her to - it was her decision. Her parent's decision may have influenced her, but it was her chocie to make.

    As for the OP, it all depends on the calling of God and the situation. Called to a dangerous place - sure, the boarding school might be a good idea. Called to a resort ministry in Hilton Head (yes, I'd go!) - take the kids with you!
     
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    Yeah, you're right. I hadn't thought about it that way.
     
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    Are you kiddin.... take the kids with us to Hilton Head????!!

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    I see this as an act of rebellion against God.

    Missionaries are often considered “special” and placed on a pedestal. We listen to their every word of their stories during church services, some even shout amens and cry. I believe this attention is very powerful, and can become an addition. Some are willing to abandon their children for it.
    We ought to view parents who abandon their children in a negative light, not praise them for going off in search of taking care of humans they deem more important than their own.
    The Lord has given commands upon our duties as parents. Single people or people free from "divided interests" are suitable candidates as Missionaries. See verses below

    1 Corinthians 7: 32-34 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs – how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world – how he can please his wife – and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs. Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world – how she can please her husband”

    Deuteronomy 11:18-19 Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

    Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.


    Proverbs 1:8-9 Listen, my son, to your father's instruction and do not forsake your mother's teaching. They will be a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck.
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    Even if God is the one who called them to go? Arean't missionaries "sent"?


    I'll let God know at the next meeting who He should send going forward. I'm sure it was just an oversight on his part.
     
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    Are you saying it's ok for married people to send their children off to boarding school so they can become Missionaries instead of raising their children? I don't see that as God's will according to scripture.

    We had some close friends who sent their adopted son to a Christian Boarding School. It turned out to be a blessing for the whole family. He was really headed downhill before that.
     
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    My first reaction was .."Absolutely NOT!!!" It is not God's will for parents to send their kids off in order to go on a mission field.

    However, after reading the replies....


    I would seriously question whether it was truly Gods will or just my emotions if I had to send my kids to a boarding school in order to go out on the mission field.

    Im thinking that it would happen so rarely, that there would scarcely be a need for there to be an entire school dedicated to it!!!

    I will not say that it NEVER could happen, but honestly, I doubt it, or at least I doubt it happens very often at all... at least for the long term.

    Biblically, it doesnt seem to make sense.
     
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    No, I am saying I don't question God or people who say they are being obedient. You might not see it as God's will but I thank God the Apostles and early leaders of the Church left home to make sure I received the Word. I thank God Jesus left home to die for my sin's. I'm not saying any of them wanted to do it but I am sure glad they did.
     
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    Life is not a cookie cutter experience.
     
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    I also wonder if God will ask us to leave our children to be a missionary. I know we're to leave our mother and father and brother and sister, but our children? Would leaving our children in the care of others who are NOT their parents so that we can do what God "called" us to do, and they stumble because of that, is that a sin?

    As a mom who is dedicated to being a good mom and who struggled with infertility and now am blessed with 4 children, I can't imagine leaving them to someone else to raise. I don't think I could do a good job wondering about them all the time. Hey - my oldest is 17 and will be heading to college next year and we're making her stay home for the first 2 years atleast! LOL! I don't want her gone yet (I also don't think she's ready yet). I can't imagine sending a child off who's younger. But then again, my hubby teases me that I have "issues" with leaving the kids (I haven't left my little ones without DH around for more than 36 hours and they're now 7 and almost 5).
     
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    Friends sent their three little ones off to boarding school and all three turned out just fine, indeed one is preparing to go to the mission field. The freind by the way was a missionary kid that went back to the field as well.
     
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    How long were the kids in boarding school, if you don't mind my asking?
     
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    What would you think of a pastor in the states who, for whatever motivation, sent his kids 1000 miles from home for 9 months to be raised/taught by others?

    I feel the same way about pastors serving in other nations. They opt to give their parental responsbilitie to well-meaning folks 1000 miles away and I cannot imagine justification for it.

    We had a pastor here in town who sent his son to a super-strict military school in 7th grade. I asked if there was some military ROTC special training that he would send such a young boy away. He admitted having trouble disciplining the boy and controling his behavior.

    When I suggested that he ought to recuse himself from the patorate and take care of his family, he laughed and said he WAS taking care of the boy.

    I felt only great sorrow for the man's family . . and ministry.
     
  20. Joe

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    The Apostles were doing God's will. (Or the majority of them, most of the time)
    Now we have the Bible, so when we follow it, we are doing God's will. Scriptures tell us we are to raise our own children, and it details how to go about that. Children are called "blessings" from God, not to be abandoned to care for others whom we deem more of a blessing. Whether this is serving under the title of Pastor or Missionary, I believe this may be considered offending one of his little ones. And scripture says something about wrapping a chain around your neck and jumping into the ocean with regards to that.

    When "a willful calling" contradicts scripture, it is not from our Lord. My two cents.
     
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