I am facing a challenge in fatherhood. Growing up I didn’t have a dad around for guidance and failed at many attempts early in life. Many times I’ve looked back and regretted having lost out due to a lack of confidence, character, and positive influences. Now, I have a son (14) who has just started as a freshman in high school (3,200 students.) He has gone out for football; he has had only a little prior experience in sports, a little baseball and tennis, and I started him weight training around five months ago after recognizing that I had dropped the ball and allowed him to lie around and get flabby and develop some self esteem issues. I especially feel bad about this because I am an experienced bodybuilder. I had held off in training him because of not wanting to start him too early, but it seems things sneak up quickly and I suddenly found my son suffering from lack of confidence in a physical sense. So on the physical part he’s made noticeable improvements but my problem is in helping him with his character. The football at this school is highly competitive; he knows very little about the game, and I have very little that I can teach him about it other than the need for heart and conditioning. He came home today first being really mad at his sister and mom, then began crying that he wanted to quit. He had tried to ask the coach what position he should play and was yelled at to get into the last row (the one where you are considered last string) and also given sponsor tickets to sell while being told if they didn’t sell at least 15 they would be pushing the “dreaded wood” (he doesn’t feel he will even be able to do it and will be humiliated) I’m sure this is normal discipline and common to tough coaching. I told him I didn’t want him to quit, that he needs to stick it out, and I have confidence in him that he will improve. I also told him about when I started wrestling that after losing my first three matches I tried to quit, but how I thank God that I had a coach who persuaded me not to and I ended up getting 2nd in state later that year. It was one of the best experiences in my life that I stuck it out. I need some help in how to explain to him that sticking it out is what builds character; even if he were to end up sitting on the bench I would be proud of him for hanging in there and giving it his best. Also any football training helps or suggestions about the mental aspects from experienced players would be appreciated, along with any prayers.