I think Calvinism's doctrine of predestination and total depravity really ruins the picture of marriage, What kind of woman wants to marry a man that she has no free will in doing so? How is that love? It's plain manipulation by the stronger party. Calvinism's God is a cold heartless God who holds souls accountable for a decision they are unable to make. That's like me telling someone who has no hands to throw me a football with their left hand or else i'm going to beat them.. Not to mention Calvinism disregards the fact that God is not a respecter of persons and that God so loved the world. Just saying.