Christian School policy

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  1. Salty

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    Children are not permitted to bring invitations for birthday parties to school, unless the

    entire class is invited. Special friends should receive their invitations by mail or telephone. This

    will eliminate innumerable problems with reference to hurt feelings.

    I disagree with this policy - from a Christian school in New Mexico.
     
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    As a former Christian school teacher I think it is a great policy for the reasons stated in the policy.
     
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    Simple solution. Don't take any invitations to school. Period. Mail them, hand deliver them, text, email or carrier pigeon but unless you want to invite the entire class - do not take them to school.
     
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    That was the policy when my kids were in public school as well. I think it is a great idea.
     
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    Heaven forbid we have a child with hurt feelings.

    Again, we are raising a generation of wimps.

    Don't get invited to a party - whats going to happen when he has a REAL disapointment in life.


    Just wondering - what is the punishment for passing out invitations at school?
     
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    I think it's ridiculous. By that logic, children should be forced to eat their lunch alone and play by themselves on the playground, lest some child feel left out.

    I'm sorry to hear that the political correctness that is turning this country into a bunch of something I can't say here has invaded Christianity. Sounds like a school we'd never send our children to.

    Are they one of those dopey schools that has banned tag and dodgeball, too?

    There are some things children should be shielded from. Child molesters, drugs, immorality in media, aggressive dogs, the poison under the kitchen sink, Arminians, etc.

    But to shield them from hurt feelings prevents them from growing up and learning how to deal with the daily disappointments those of us who live in the real world have to deal with.

    Now, the children who were part of the first participation trophy generation are grown up and this is the nonsense they're pushing on our children.

    Hurt feelings and disappointment are a part of life. The umpire calls you out when you're safe. A girl turns you down when you ask her out. You don't get that raise you think you deserve.

    What do you do? Who do you cry to? Do you sue? Do you go home and come back with a gun? What?

    Better to learn to deal with those things as a child than to be a baby all your life.
     
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    So in your world Arminians are the equivalent of immoral poisonous child molesters?
     
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    I am assuming he was speaking tongue in cheek. I actually laughed out loud when I read it.
     
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    I would agree with the good Sarge

    Now LIGHT - what is your position on the school policy?
     
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    Agree with the policy. A classroom is a close knit group and the word would get around that so-and-so is having a party and certain kids (most kids?) weren't invited. Bringing invitations to class when you are only inviting a select few is just a convenience for the host, as all the invitees are in the same room. Far better to invite people privately through other means.

    Imagine you're in the break room at work with a dozen other people and a co-worker walks in and says "I'm having a football viewing party on Saturday afternoon. Tom, Bill, John, and Stan--you're invited and I hope to see you there." Would you like that?
     
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    I was. It was a joke.
     
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    You don't know JDF's animosity towards "Finneyists". I don't think it was tongue in cheek. For example,

     
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    Now that is cleared up

    WHAT IS YOUR POSITION ON THE OP
     
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    I guess my response to the policy would be to ask how old the kids are. If they are in elementary, then yes, I believe it's a good policy. Any older, and the policy is just nonsense.
     
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    Opps - missed that somehow -


    We are not talking about the child standing in front of the class to pass out the invites -. The kids should be able to give them to their friends individualy at the proper time - ie lunch time, recess, walking out to the bus, ect.

    Next question: Should the student who attend be prohibited from talking "about going to the party - because that too would make the other kids sad.....
     
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    Folks, we live in a real world with real problems and real disappointments, and real hurt feelings!

    Just WHEN do you approve of children experiencing LIFE in all it's reality; does this not start at birth when a babe slowly but surely learns how to manipulate it's parents and at the same time learns that sometimes things just don't go to suit it?

    I would say that any extreme kowtowing to either abuse the feelings of a child OR to overprotect a child,could lead to these yo-yos that tend to go off the deep end when older.

    Kids are resilient, and all that most need is some supervision to block them when headed in a dangerous direction.

    Sure there will be some hurt feelings, but most will forget all about it in a few days, and some other SOMETHING will be on their agenda after the party has long been forgotten.

    IOW, do the kids a favor and let 'em grow up normally!:thumbsup:
     
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    The schools job is to educate the kids. If something comes along that interrupts that mission then reasonable rules need to be put in place to correct that. If this particular school has had an increase in this behavior then this rule is reasonable.
     
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    I can agree with that theory - IF such action has caused interruptions.
    However, the school web page gives the reason of
    "problems with reference to hurt feelings."
    (bold my emphasis)
     

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