Christians and romance novels

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  1. abcgrad94

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    Do you think Christians should read Christian romance novels? Why or why not?

    Should Christian romance novels be allowed in a church library?

    I'll wait a while before I add my opinion.:tongue3:
     
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    I am not one to censor any books, but I do have my choices as select reading in given situations. I think a church library should only have church oriented books, but that is only my opinion.

    Cheers,

    Jim
     
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    Then I guess it is ok for me to wait a little longer than your while before I add my opinion:cool:
     
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    My personal conviction is that no - Christian's should not read romance novels.

    I found that they put unrealistic expectations in my mind and my husband never measured up. I was convicted to stop reading the regular trashy novels a long time ago but then a while back, I was convicted to even stop reading the "Christian" romance novels. It's not good to fill my mind with unrealistic views of what a man should be like. No man will measure up to those guys in the novels.
     
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    Wait a minute there...No man can measure up?? I still measure up cos I have trouble bending over without tipping.....good job those tape measure let out the way they do.

    Cheers,

    Jim
     
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    my wife says that they are nothing more than a socially acceptable form of pornography for females.

     
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    In my honest opinion

    No

    The church should not carry the Christian romance novels

    Theres plenty of other "family" books available by women authors

    We need to remember that the aurthors who write---even the Christian ones---are penning fantasy-----they are not penning "where the rubber meets the road"---they are not penning harsh reality
     
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    I'd love to see one of them written about a middle aged woman with stretch marks and about 20 lbs. overweight. She's a mom to a bunch of kids and has a house that's a bit cluttered. She's been told she's "difficult" at times and doesn't always do what she's supposed to do. The man is her husband - a hard working man with a paunch and who has a habit of passing gas and hacking up loogies because of the bronchitis he was just diagnosed with. It would concentrate on the almost 24 years of marriage that they've had and the love they still feel for each other.

    Oh wait - that's MY life. ;)

    Why would I need to read about those pretty ladies and those hunky guys? I've got the best life. LOL
     
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    Does this rule out all christian fiction books?
     
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    they have nothing pornographic or even explicit in them, no se*ual acts, they usually center around God and the person relationship with Him, learning to do whats right.
    And before you people jump me, I've read 3, I'm not real big on christian fiction, I like studies and stuff to learn by.
     
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    I was referring to romance novels in general...not so-called christian ones. From what you describe...where's the romance? It sounds just like a novel to me.
     
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    DonnA does have a point

    As long as the books are "Up the Road, Down the Road" pure novel------and not mushy romance with two fictional characters planning how they want to be together, etc

    DonnA---do you mean novels like

    The Yearling
    Red Badge of Courage

    Stuff like that??
     
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    Depends what you're talking about. George Macdonald wrote romance novels and they seem fine. However, If you're talking about harliquen romance its an abomination. I like the classic term of Romance novel like how George MaceDonald approaches the topic.
     
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    I've read Red Badge of Courage, like it a lot. But it's not romance.
     
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    Maybe there's a lot of pages that should be cut from our Bibles... like David and Bath--uh, something, yeah Bath-sheba; Ruth and the beau she set her eyes on, Boaz; and how Tamar got Judah's goat; maybe even how Ananias and Sapphira had no family secrets.

    Then how about classical literature... censor Romeo and Juliet except for the deadly fights in the street and the graveyard; expurgate Antony and Cleopatra and that same balcony/separation/double-suicide stuff; tear out any page of The Iliad that has the word Helen; and burn every copy of Moll Flanders we can find.
     
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    So, if I Was Taken By a Half-Dressed Pirate becomes a classic, then it's OK?

    You're not seriously comparing the Song of Solomon to Hustler in print form, are you?
     
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    What is meant by "porn" with the romance novels is that men are generally turned on by sight and women by their mind based on actions. Women won't look at men undressed and be as "turned on" as if they were reading about this man who was the "perfect" man. That is more effective for women than viewing s3xual acts.

    Regular novels don't count for "romance novels".
     
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    Note the ending in all of these. In romance novels, the man is a hero, the woman is rescued somehow and they live happily ever after. I don't think Romeo and Juliet had that kind of ending. ;)
     
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    I agree with this, except my man is tall and quite thin. In a few years we'll look like that old couple with the pitchfork. LOL!
     
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    Generally, a story considered a "romance" can be a comedy, tragedy, or melodrama; but admittedly I don't read much of what would be called "Christian romance novels." Nevertheless, I do remember one where the young woman was conned into coming to Texas to marry a rancher's son [a "mail order bride"], who proved to be very abusive, then he was killed and her father-n-law framed a 'case' against her and she was going to hang, but somehow she escaped to Indian Territory, had her abusive husband's baby and then married a brave who treated her well... but I don't remember the ending; it was probably TLHEA. But if she had died after escaping near-execution and then realizing some happiness, would that single circumstance really make it a novel that shouldn't be read?
     

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