Courtship

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  1. Dixie Girl

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    Hello everybody!
    I was just wanting everybody's input on a topic: Dating or courtship. For anyone who has heard of godly courtship you will know what I'm talking about. I just wanted to see what other teens thought about the subject.
    Thanks,
    Jessica :D [​IMG]
     
  2. MissAbbyIFBaptist

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    Dating?! I don't know about that. I guess I'm really old fashioned. I don't really see a problem with it, but,I, personaly wouldn't date ANYONE who isn't saved. My philosophy is that if you don't date an unsaved person you won't marry one. {course,I don't have to worry bout that...they ain't no one that crazy :D ...}
    Courtship? I guess that would be up to the couple going together.
    Oh, one more thought. When dating a person, I would be really careful about the hugging/kissing/hand-holding stuff.
    Most of the girls I know are already dating {keep in mind that these girls aren't Christian, though} even though they are young. And they are dating guys way older than them.
    I, personaly, will wait on the Lord.
    But these are just some of my opinions. I personaly agree whith Christian courtship.
    Abby [​IMG]
     
  3. Dixie Girl

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    That's what I thought Abby,
    I think when dating somone one is tempted even more to kiss, physical stuff and such. I agree with christian courtship, I think it better preserves more of the stuff ment for marriage.Of course this is just my opion. [​IMG]

    Jessica
     
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    I am no longer a teen. Haven't been one in at least a century, some would say.

    But I don't "date" unless it is someone who is courting me.

    Yes, I have been out on "dates"--some persons it was only one time, and enough of that.

    But courting--I would say I go on dates in the midst of courting. At least that is what is going on now. I have been getting to know a guy and our relationship is deepening. We spend a lot of time together, but I wouldn't call a lot of what we do "dating". Some of it is, though.
     
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    I find that when in a dating relationship, there are all sorts of unneeded pressure. It isn't necessary to become overly physical, for instance, but the pressure is there if you are dating, and I find that that's often the only reason people have to be dating. All the things that I really want to have in a relationship I can get without dating. Dating seems like a good way to lose people you're close with.

    God Bless
    Matt
     
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    Most of our children married the first one the Lord sent their way. This saved me a lot of heartache & worry, haha. I'd like to share a special story of my youngest girl, soon to be 33. She & her hubby-to-be were in high school together. He came calling at our home for 3yrs. before asking for her hand in marriage. They sat on the couch, in the yard, at the table, all the while courting. When he joined the National Guard, he discovered a great delicacy! One day he called her up & said, "sweetheart, be ready for a surprise this evening". She, thinking, "oh boy, he's actually taking me out to eat!" got dressed-up & she waited....He showed up alright, with that big ol'grin of his, & a couple of MRE's in hand! She looked at that Chicken-a-la-King & then at him & with such grace unlike any I've ever seen, sat herself up on that stool in the kitchen, while he prepared for them those "meals-ready-to-eat"(army food). We still laugh about it & yes, he realizes now just how special she was then (& still is :)
     
  8. Brother Adam

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    LOL! Thanks for sharing the story [​IMG]

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    I've been on "dates" and such and realize that a lot of times they really are pointless, other than to fulfill worldly desires.

    Sure I've read the book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" but won't go so far as to say "Never date." I do think you should never date or court anyone you wouldn't consider as a mate...thus that makes most teen relationships (and a lot of adult ones) irrelevant and purposeless.

    Obviously, there is such as thing as godly courtship, allowing you to get to know the person without giving in to the world's ways. :D
     
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    Two good books to read on this topic:
    "I Kissed Dating Good-bye" by Josh Harris and "I Gave Dating A Chance" by Jeremy Clark.

    There's some good material to read and will give you a better understanding on both sides.

    In Christ's gracious love,
    Teresa
     
  11. Pastor_Bob

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    Dr. S.M. Davis, Pastor of Park Meadows Baptist Church in Lincoln, IL has a whole series on this subject. Dr. Davis is a nationally known Home School speaker. He has hundreds of audio and video tapes going around the world weekly.

    http://www.drsmdavis.com/

    I have three teenagers living at home and have saved them a lot of heartache by applying some of the principles I learned from Dr. Davis.
     
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    Glad you recognize this. [​IMG]
     
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    I just wanted to recommend everyone to visit www.momof9splace.com..she has some great courtship/dating articles in there, along with a ton of other things, leaning more towards women.

    :) Jamie
     
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    Cool! Just a note to all...you'll have to take out the two periods and the word "she" on the end for the url in order to get it to work.

    God bless :D
     
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    my first post : and i'm going to plagiarise and paraphrase what i read on another christian site.

    the writer said it depends what's in a person's heart - and soul.

    one can encounter serial, manipulative courters and chaste, Godly daters.

    so the writer said don't obsess about the form of relationships but concentrate on their content.

    some outwardly pious people might have corrupt, festering psyches.

    likewise, someone who makes a big holy show out of courting may not be as pure in heart as he or she likes to pretend.

    i dunno.

    it's all theory for me.

    still waiting for my first date.

    [with a girl, if possible - lol]
     
  17. preacherboymatt

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    hi,
    ok though i am not the master of the topic i do have some experience.
    it is always better to date someone who is saved and a member of a baptist church. other wise you will and i repeat will have trouble. i spent countless nights praying for my girlfriend for her salvation. though it worked for me i spent many nights crying and many occasions i slipped away from the lord so i could be with her.
    the bible says "be ye not unequally yoked together" please its good to listen to the lord.
     

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