Over the years I have watched parents raising their children. Some have given their children direction by giving choices for their children to make. Go into the ministry, or go into the ministry. Their kids are in Christian schools, or homeschooled with Biblical basis as the main focus. They send them to Bible college, or off with missionaries or evangelists. Pastor's kids are usually placed under the pastor in their own church, missionary kids stay on the mission field, evangelists continue to tote their kids until the "right one" comes along, but is in the ministry, of course. I know this is not always the case, though. There are those kids that make their own decisions, and they go to a secular college, or into the military, or just get a job and work their way up in the world. They witness to the unsaved, go to church, are members in good standing. Seems to be two ways here. But what bothers me is when the kids go to Bible college and don't go into the ministry after graduation. The kids end up with an education, but I've seen them go to work at the nearby c-store, or stock shelves while they wait for their "calling" to come. They struggle to meet the rent and pay the bills. Is there any right or wrong in either of these scenarios? I know there is no guarantees after secular college either, but if one majors in, say, theology, or missions, but doesn't go because they are waiting for the calling, wouldn't it have been just as well if they would have studied in another field for a back-up? And, do you think that many of the problems with pastors or their wives may be because they were directed to go that one way in their life, but without having made that choice, they actually are in the wrong place? How are you directing your children?