I need some help please. I feel I have been called to be an apologist. I have studied for about four years now trying to develop or renew my mind in God's word to help discern truth from error. Where I'm having difficulty is, I feel I may over-step my calling sometimes and end up being over-critical. We are searching for the right church right now and I seem like I never can find the right fit. This is where I feel I may be getting critical. I consider myself Reformed in theology although I'm no hyper-Calvinist, and I feel like I end up criticizing all the churches we visit because I find a flaw here-and-there in their theology or methodology. When I do this I feel I'm being discerning and want to find the right fit for my family, but I'm getting signals from by better-half that I may be going too far. How do we know when it's time to be discerning without ending up being over-critical? I know "unity in essentials, liberty in non-essentials and charity in all things," this is what Augustine said, should this be my guide?