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May God bless you as you make Him known in the lives of these tragic events.

 

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Pastor Paul

 

A word of encouragement you might not like as much, but I encourage you to consider it.

Perhaps rather than building your lives around DivorceCare and going about to find a place to do it, build your life around a church and fill the needs at the church. I am sure there are other ministries of the church that you could get involved in. I struggle with the idea that we create a ministry idea and then go search for a church to let us do it. I think the biblical pattern is that ministry flows out of a church.

 

I echo pastor Larry's advice.

 

Is that how you arrived at your current ministry position? Just curious.

 

givengrace, don't be discouraged by mis-placed advised. You continue to seek the Lord and He will place you where you are needed.

 

What do you mean "this is where we came from" ? were you both divorced, found each other, and married each other ?

You could at least give a little more background for others to base their comments and advices on.

Given the very little background you gave, Pastor Larry's advice is not misplaced, nor is it fair to subject it to sarcasm (and say "just curious"). After all, as understood by majority of churches of any persuasion, ministries are evolved from churches, not started by a couple and then adopted by a church. At best I think you should be called "guidance counsellors" and what you do does not necessarily have to be called a church ministry.

After all, you said in your first post "But are now possibly moving to another church in our area to start a new group."

Yet in your post number 5 you say that you are being commissioned as missionaries. So, as missionaries, you are to make disciples of those who are already church-members ? Because, remember you said you are moving to another church in your area to start a new group.

And what do you mean "my husband has served since 1999, and me since 2001........" (maybe I didn't quote this verbatim), are you in different churches ? Or do you mean your husband was in this ministry first, and then you joined him in 2000 ?

The initial informations you gave were a little bit disorganized, if I may say so.

 

Good going and God Bless for trying to serve and be a support to God's people that have been through or going through this awlful experience. :thumbs:

 

Then perhaps you should be making disciples in another area of ministry.

It depends on the situation. In the NT, I think missions is church planting and making disciples. Marriage counseling is a part of that, but only a part. If someone came to me as you have, I would have some long talks with them about the mission of the church and what it means to make disciples.

I haven't told you to ignore what Christ is calling you to do. I don't know if Christ has called you to do that.

what? I am not following you here. I was faithfully serving in a church as a layman and was asked by another church to fill the pulpit, and then was asked to become pastor.

How do you know that I (or someone else) is not reaching the lost and hurting?

Perhaps you weren't interested in "wise words of encouragement" as your said in your OP, but interested only in affirmation of what you had already decided to do. If so, you should have just said that.

 

Your OP doesn't say that. But even at that, isn't it dangerous to only seek opinions from a select group. Sometimes, the best advice can come from those who are outside of a select group because they have a more objective opinion.

Do you really have any way to gauge what I truly understand? If so, how? On what basis do you make this assertion?

How do you know I lack knowledge in this area? How do you know I am not divorced? How do you know I don't lead a ministry to divorced people? How do you know I don't counsel almost divorced people? How do you know enough about me to know what my knowledge is in the area of ministry to divorced/troubled marriages?

Truth is, you don't know any of that do you? You assumed a bunch because I gave an answer you didn't like. And rather than respond with gracious disagreement, you responded to cause some friction.

If you go back and read my original post, I said you probably wouldn't like what I said but I encouraged you to think about it anyway. That's all I asked.

I would encourage you to take a step back and don't respond so negatively to advice you asked for to begin with.

 

Chill out, lady. Nobody says you were hiding anything.

Well, not everybody here knows there is such a thing as www.divorcecare .com in that vast space called the ethernet, not even those who wished you well immediately, it might be fair to say. Most of the people on this board have lives and don't spend their time trying to figure out what's floating around out there.

Yes, that answers a couple of questions, thank you.

clear as a still pond, thank you.

Don't know if there are any here on this board, but good luck to ya.

 

No, it wasn't. Besides you asked for "any other words of encouragement."