Do you know someone in church leadership who left with . . .

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I know a church leader who ran off on their spouse or with someone else's spouse

  1. Yes

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  2. No

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  3. Could be - but it was fast and things were hush-hush

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  1. mcdirector

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    someone elses spouse. The leadership position doesn't have to be paid. It can be a lay leader.

    This came up in another thread.

    AND whether or not they came back, begged to come back or were begged to come back isn't germaine for the question itself I wouldnt' think.
     
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  2. The Scribe

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    I've read stories online and one was a pastor that fornicated with his secretary. I'm not sure if he was married. Pastors need to have a wife.
    I know his congregation wasn't informed and that's wrong. His ministry is dead.

    If a pastor can't stand when temptation comes then they don't need to be preaching the word.

    Would Ted Haggard fit this?
     
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  3. mcdirector

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    I was thinking of someone you knew personally.
     
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    Yep, I know someone very close to me that did that.
     
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    I run off with my spouse everyonce in a while!!!
    I try to at least once a yr... with no kids...

    ROFL!!!!

    Read you question again, it can be funny...
     
  6. mcdirector

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    You know what I meant stinker ;)

    Mr. Director and I run off occassionally too :D
     
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    Now, that that is out the way :laugh: ---yes, I know someone personally.
     
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    Yep. One church a deacon was "running around" with the church secretary while his son was "seeing" her daughter. Keeping it in the family I guess......

    another church I attended for a while the preacher ran off with someone he "met" online.

    I should add, these incidents occured years apart.
     
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    I don't know of a leader who ran off with someone, but I know a leader who's wife ran off with a very young kid(maybe 18-19) that went to church there.

    BTW, the Church opted to keep him as pastor and he is a very upstanding guy, very worthy of the pastorship.
     
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    Yes, in all my years I have known more than one. What gets me is when it comes out that he is going with someone's wife, you find out that it was happening for a long time.
    I have often wondered how a person could keep on preaching. How could you keep a straight face. Preaching is spiritual and you couldn't be in the spirit in that condition. But the scripture says satan has his preachers also.

    BBob,
     
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    Because it becomes just a job - they learn to live with sin. In the house I grew up in, a lot of sin was hidden. We had an outside face and an inside face. We kept going to church week after week and I don't think anyone knew the trouble within. Sin is like that. It can put on a very good show.
     
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    I knew a man who was working to start a rescue mission when he left his wife and ran off with another woman.
     
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    I had a Sunday School teacher whom I respected very much. He had been doing a good job with our adult class. Suddenly he and a choir member disappeared together, only to turn up in another state, both of them suing their spouses for divorce.

    After that happened, it seemed as though it gave permission for several other couples to divorce or get involved extramaritally. Very sad situation, which contributed to many people leaving that church. It is today just minuscule and may not survive.

    We -- my wife and I --knew it was bad when a young woman called and asked if she could visit us. When she arrived, she said, "You know what has been going on in our church. Someone said that you two were the next ones that were going to split. I decided that if that was the case, I was leaving not only the church but the Christian faith as well." Well, it was not true, she was relieved, and eventually she went on to get a seminary degree and work in counseling. Whew!
     
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    A local pastor was having an affair with the secretary. The secretary's husband (a believer) confronted the pastor right in the middle of his sermon. The cops were called and it was on all of the local news stations and papers. Truly sad.
    The pastor had the nerve to sue the church for his lost income :tear:
     
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    I'd love to run off.:laugh:
     
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    Unfortunately, yes.

    The 'offending' couple never did come back. They divorced their respective spouses and left all of their children behind and married each other.
     
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    Unfortunately, yes to the question, as well. And unfortunately also, in more than one instance.

    And my own late brother, after he and his first wife were divorced after some 22 years of marriage (against his own wishes, FWIW), later remarried, and the lady he married the second time, was the divorcee of a pastor, herself, after that pastor left her (she was completely 'innocent' in this, IMO), to go for another, as well. My late brother and his second wife had known and been friends since college days, and her first husband ( the pastor) was actually one of his closest friends for all those years, and was one of his college roommates, as well. They were the first three out of a group of thirty-five or so, longtime close friends from college days, who ever had a divorce, and who BTW, saw their own beloved college pastor have his wife leave him (He was 'innocent' in this, as well, IMO), who rallied around him, both male and female, and supported the college pastor completely, with the good result, IMO, that they have had far fewer divorces (only those I mentioned) than the average crowd of that number might have been expected to have.

    And I know and knew all of the above unnamed fairly to very well, in the various instances. I did not and don't 'condone' divorce, but do understand that it happens, and sometimes "with cause", at least for some involved.

    FTR, had my own late brother never remarried, my own bride and I would likely not have ever met (My bride is the long-time best friend of my sister-in-law.), let alone married. It was our first marriage for each of us, and I was 50 and she was 37 when we married.

    God is good and merciful.

    And to all. 'Nuff said.

    Ed

    [Edited to add]

    P.S. For a change, I actually voted in this poll.
     
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    No wonder Ed, you keep calling her "my bride"..........:)
     
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    Well, ya' gotta understand, with me, being at such a tender age, and she, barely "dry behind the ea....."

    Ed
     

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