I have two questions that I would like to see answered by some conservatives or fundamentalists: 1). A small (100-150) church I know of uses Paul's Biblical statements regarding a deacon being a man with one wife and not divorced. Is it Biblical for this to be translated in the way that the wife cannot be married before? I will give an example. We have a good Christian who married a wife whose husband was placed in prison for molesting his biological daughters. The man married the wife (who is a Christian and divorced the man immediately upon finding out about the molestation -- she was being abused too.) and adopted the girls. The church has this in its constitution, but it is my understanding that the pastor was the one who pushed this through and pretty much gets what he wants when he has the church vote for it. The man was never married before, he married the wife not only because he loved her, but fell in love with the children and wanted to give them a chance to have a real father. 2)My second question is that a missionary has been communicating with several young men in our church. The missionary goes to Africa and holds revivals where many are saved and he also builds and helps churches get started. One of our men received a private letter form this missionary asking him to go with him on a trip to Africa. It is the suspicion among several of us that the man chosen was selected by either the pastor or one or two of his upper-level buddies. It seems as though anybody who is buddies with the boss (not God) gets to be selected for the "fun" things. But, everybody else is "expected" to continue to do their part, ie sound, cleaning, etc. as volunteers with little credit. (I am speaking for someone else here, personally, I don't want to go to Africa -- been there, done that) but, there are good people who seem to be ignored because they are somewhat quiet types. This is a small church. I would like to see what some other pastors feel about this and based just on the information I have given, does it seem fair to other church members.