Does your congregation uplift or tear down your ministry staff?

Discussion in 'Pastoral Ministries' started by TexasSky, May 5, 2005.

  1. TexasSky

    TexasSky
    Expand Collapse
    Guest

    I am not a minister, but I feel one of the gifts God has given me is to minister to my ministerial staff so my question kind of fits this forum.

    If you are a minister - how do members of your congregation lift you up spiritually. How do they tear you down?

    If you are not a minister - how do you lift your ministry staff up? How do you tear them down?

    I see, time after time, in church after church, ministers and their families give everything they have in them to give to Christ with via their churches, while receiving inadequate pay. They answer calls at all hours of the day and night, they get up there Sunday after Sunday knowing that by teaching the word of God as God has given it to them, some people will hate them because they hate the idea of turning from whatever it is God wants them to turn from. There will be people who hate them simply because they are not the pastor who was there before. There will be people who debate pastoral authority (which I find interstingly enough are usually the same people who blame ever problem in the church on the pastor.)

    Many Ministers and ministerial staff members work with inadequate pay, poor or no health insurance, and almost no time off. Many would not dare go to anyone else to ask for prayer over a personal problem, lest it become the topic of the next church business meeting.

    I know one pastor who jokes, "I used to think that the secret to being a good minister was prayer and bible study. I went to seminary and I studied ministry, theology, bible history, ancient languages, and I graduated with a 4.0, and I thought, now my congregation will respect me. Then I met this one deacon - - - ."

    I try to drop a note to members of my church staff or their family, from time to time, telling them how much I appreciate what they do for the church, or for me.

    I keep my ears open for when they are having health problems, or even for when they seem down, and I pray for them, and I ask others to. (Our church has a prayer team that specifically meets to pray for the Pastor and his staff and family.)

    I try to find out what they need in their office, and if it isn't the church budget, I ask around town and around the church, and sometimes we come up with things. For instance, when the microwave was stolen from the office of a staff member she would not ask the church to replace it because she said it was just for her lunches, so some of us got together and had a "we want you to know we appreciate you," party and gave her a new microwave.

    Our deacons are very outspoken on the issue of not spreading gossip and vicious talk about the Pastor or staff. When someone starts badmouthing the staff they will stop them and say, "If you feel this is a serious problem that the church needs to address, please put it in writing and bring it to your deacon. We'll discuss it at the deacon's meeting." It is amazing how many people are willing to whisper negative talk in the halls, but not willing to bring anything to the deacon body.
     
  2. mike

    mike
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 3, 2004
    Messages:
    23
    Likes Received:
    0
    I'm youth & education minister at my church and am regularly lifted up by the congregation I serve. A good example is from last summer. My wife and I were planning to be involved in a mission work in New York City for a week. I'm bivocational and was going to work overtime to come up with the money to be able to participate. The cost was about $2000 for us together. The congregation said that they wanted to pay our way and so the money was collected each week by designated offerings. When the amount was reached, money continued to come in. Embarrased to say anything about it, I asked the senior pastor to let everyone know that the amount had been reached. When he did this at an evening service, one of the senior ladies stood up and said, "We just want them to have plenty of spending money too."

    So far, I've been frustrated several times but never discouraged. We're in our third year here and no tearing down has taken place with either me or my family at this point. I've been aproached by other churches but God isn't through with us where we are. It has been a blessed experience.

    There are challenges here to be sure; however, the folks here "get it" and are very supportive.

    Mike
     
  3. TaterTot

    TaterTot
    Expand Collapse
    Guest

    Our church folks are in general very supportive. They love us and include us in family gatherings, and have become grandparents to our children as well as great friends to us. They even just bought my husband (pastor) a truck.

    But, (you knew that was coming) there is a small group of ladies that are very critical and downright mean. My husband's brother is retarded, and they have even stooped so low as to make fun of him. (They heard about it, too!) Nothing pleases them. Thankfully,though, they are kind of encapsulated, as most folks cant stand to be around them. So their venom usually stays withing their small group.

    This is by far the healthies church we have ever seen. The majority of the folks are so great, and its worth the little pain in the...ahem, neck, to have to opportunity to love and be a part of this church.
     
  4. PastorSBC1303

    PastorSBC1303
    Expand Collapse
    Banned

    Joined:
    Aug 21, 2003
    Messages:
    15,125
    Likes Received:
    0
    The church I serve is very supportive of my ministry. It is by far the greatest church I have been blessed to serve.

    They have went above and beyond to help meet my families needs. When I first arrived they provided the down payment on our house as we had never purchased our own home. They on a regular basis call and check in on my wife and daughters to make sure they are happy and taken care of in the right way. They are paying for my DMin. I could go on and on about how they have blessed our family.

    Of course things are not always perfect and we have some problems and problem people, but nothing that causes any great problems.

    The great thing about a church like this is that it really motivates you to give them your best in service!
     
  5. bobbyd

    bobbyd
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    Dec 15, 2004
    Messages:
    1,468
    Likes Received:
    0
    I get support from a good portion, if not most of the congregation on a regular basis...and this includes all of the active deacons.

    As for tearing down, i do have one inactive deacon and his wife who find ways to do this on a regular basis. The only time i will ever get a compliment from them is when it is a back handed attempt to get me to go their way on something. This deacon also presents on a regular basis to myself and the rest of the deacons a lot of "most people" stories which are complaints...the thing is, the "most people" he describes are a handfull of older folks who don't care much for the changes made prior to me arriving and since i have arrived.

    So, in short...i do get a lot of support, and even though it is from more people i don't receive it as often as i do the comments or complaints that do nothing but tead down.
     
  6. themoreseygroup

    themoreseygroup
    Expand Collapse
    New Member

    Joined:
    May 17, 2005
    Messages:
    1
    Likes Received:
    0
    Hi guys. I just bumped into this board while looking for some other stuff. Anyway I can relate to the issues that church leaders go through, especially new pastors. It took me five years to find my specific area of ministry. This includes leader/pastor coachin. I'd like to help you. If interested look me up www.themoreseygroup.com. I look forward to interacting with your experiences.
     

Share This Page

Loading...