dressing modestly

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  1. massdak

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    i have two young daughters and want them to dress modestly, this is very difficult as peer pressure can make a young persons life miserable.
    i have been at church where some lady's look on the provocative side and smell alluring to boot, it would be nice if they would dress modest and forgo the perfume.
    anyway here is a clever excerpt from the following site>>>

    "Too tight" is the most popular mode of disobedience among modern evangelicals. The whole world is invited to gawk at the topographical evidence concerning exactly where her underwear starts and stops, along with the exact condition, location, and size of her breasts. Many Christian women go to worship today dressed in a manner that would have gotten them thrown out of a bar fifty years ago. Ah, Christian liberty.


    http://www.achristianhome.com/Messages%20for%20Wives/MODESTY/Modest%20Daughters-Wilson.htm
     
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    Try finding a church where dress codes, although maybe unspoken, are the norm. Avoid some fundies - they tend to get really freaky on the subject. Its very difficult when many other youth in church are dressing a particular way to try to justify to your daughters why it isn't proper. It could lead to subversive rebellion and problems later on if you do. Peer pressure is tough especially when guys in society(christian guys included) more readilly notice a sensually dressed woman among females who are at the age where they are competing with each other for attention.
     
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    I believe the pastors wife should set the dress code with her attire. My pastor's wife wears a dress that comes below the knees and also the dress has sleeves. Less skin means less temptation. We're going to church, not the, "Hey, I'm single with a body" house.
     
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    Perfume is now bad too? :rolleyes:
     
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    This really isn't a fair statement as individuals with individual body profiles will look differently in certain clothing than others. My ex-fiance was a Christian and a 35D cup size. It was pretty hard for her not to "stand out" no matter what she would wear. Well fitting clothing especially tailor made tends to accentuate the contours of the body. To some it looks stylish and tasteful altough some people might find it arousing. For many people such as my ex, it would be hard to find clothing that didn't diplay her assets short of her wearing a large tarpaulin. Of course if a female would never display at least some evidence(modest) that she is a female then how is any guy ever gonna get interested in her at all? Eventually we need to get a hint of whats behind the package. Honestly if a girl that I dated always wore loose, burgeoning clothing that completely hid each and every subtle accentuation of her femininity I would have to conclude that she was hiding something(either not good, or lack thereof). I know what your saying about the dress nowadays and I've seen some examples that would fit your bill, but I always have a hard time with the bundle/up - tape/up doctrines. Dating and marriage is about sex(potential) and child bearing and part of that is viewing the package (albiet modestly)in advance.
     
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    perfume certainly can be alluring i am not sure it is appropriate or not but if you take a scantly clad lady and add a very sensual smelling perfume it doesn't help. dont you believe women have a responsibility to dress modest and use discretion even with perfume?
     
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    Yes, I do. If a woman is dressed modestly and wears perfume, I see nothing wrong with that (unless she marianates in it - then it is not attractive, it is nauseating).

    What about a man dressing modestly and using discretion with cologne or after-shave?
     
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    Yes, I do. If a woman is dressed modestly and wears perfume, I see nothing wrong with that (unless she marianates in it - then it is not attractive, it is nauseating).

    What about a man dressing modestly and using discretion with cologne or after-shave?
    </font>[/QUOTE]yes men need to be modestly dressed also but it is more rare for men to not do so. cologne and after shave? is that a problem for women? if it contributes to sensual appeal it could be a problem also
     
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    It is not a problem for me, personally, but I have known women who were affected by it just like a man could be affected by perfume.

    Actually, if you're not looking for something, neither one should affect you. (not you personally - I am using 'you' generically).

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    I found that the HOME established the standard, not the school or church or peer group. And as the Dad, I established it with my bride, then with our boys and girls.

    My wife still dresses carefully and modestly. But we're not Amish or IFBish or Islamic. She looks stylish and pleasing, but not alluring or overtly sexy.

    And at 55, she is more beautiful than at 25. Not joking. Many women age poorly; mine isn't getting older, she is getting better.

    Mass - don't expect the world to bend to you. Their dress, their fragrance, their manor or demeanor will still exude the lusts of this world. YOU set the standard . . and don't back down.
     
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    I still say a bath does better than does cologne....A-choooooo...no, it doesn't bother me,,,,A,,chooooooo.

    I still say men ought to get their minds out of the gutter and their sights (intentional) a little higher. You haven't lived long enogh to see all the changes in modern society. In the so-called Victorian era..the great Christian puritan era, woman commonly went about with bustles and breasts bursting bare at the top...To-day is virtually nothing compared to the buttons from ankle to bust and men wore trousers that required a shoe horn to get into them.

    My first swim suit was one piece from knees to shoulders...looked almost like a tutu without the skirt.

    Cheers,

    Jim
     
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    A man art to smell like a man and a woman art to smell like a woman.
     

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