Paul writes in Ephesians 5: 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. (NKJV) I would like to know how that works. I frequently curse myself for being stupid or a fat s.o.b. or for being a failure or one of many such things. I also punch myself in the head (and I mean hard). How is that loving and cherishing my flesh? Can I chalk it up to the devil making me do it? What about those that cut themselves with knives or razor blades?