I think if we (calvinist and non calvinist) could ever agree on the fact that God is love (1 John 4) and CANNOT be hate, the petals of TULIP would fall off. First, Jesus says in Matt 5: Jesus is telling us to love even our enemies. Are the "non elect" enemies of God , and does God hate all of those (including Esau) who are not elect? If God does indeed love His enemies (those who aren't elect), why would He NOT elect His creation, in whom He loves, if His very nature is love? First problem with God hates. 1 John 2 tells us we can know we have come to know Him if we keep His commandments. The above scripture in Mattew 5 is clearly a command, no? So...if we keep His commands, in him the love of God has been truly perfected. This would make no sense that God commands us to love the very ones He hates, and in turn loves us for this! Verse 6 says we who abide in Him, SHOULD WALK IN THE SAME MANNER AS HE WALKED. We should be like Christ. How then can Christ tell us to love our enemies while He, both fully God and man, does not? If we have the "mind of Christ", and He commands us to love our enemies, He obviously does, too. "The one who does not love doesn not know God"? Does this mean that God doesn't know Himself?! It is not in God's nature to hate His creation, only the actions of His creation, as evidenced throughout the Bible. 1 John 3:14-15 "We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love our brothers. Anyone who does not love remains in death. Anyone who hates his brother is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life in him." If we are to love even our enemies, and we are not allowed to hate our brother, who are we allowed to hate? What happens to those who hate? Jesus OBVIOUSLY hated noone! If Jesus hated noone, that means God the Father could ALSO hate NOONE! Conclusion: The "hating" of Esau CANNOT be the same hate in the above verses.