The issue of forgiveness came up in another thread. Here is my position on forgiveness: Definition: Forgiveness: to treat the offender as if they never offended you. Scenario: A pastor has an affair with your wife. Response: There are two offending parties in this scenario. The pastor and the wife. What obligations do we as Christians have in response to the offenders? It is my position that forgiveness can only occur when repentance has been achieved. To forgive is to act and treat the offenders as if it never happened. If the pastor had truly been forgiven then he will not loose his position as a pastor. The relationship with the wife will continue on as if it never happened. Unless this has occurred then forgiveness has not happened. Biblical support: Luke 17:4 And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him. Act_2:38 Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost. Summary: Freeing yourself form the emotions of being offended such as anger, outrage, hatred etc. is not the same thing and forgiving. Those are two seperate issues. We are not forgiven by God and thus saved unless we repent. Repentance is always necessary for forgiveness to be had.