You already know most Christians call anyone who still believes only men should be pastors a legalist. But I still believe that. I also believe men really should have short hair. I'm not sure drum sets and electric guitars belong in church (but I don't think those that have them love the Lord any less than I do). I think if you are in a leadership role, you should probably wear a tie. Maybe even shave. I don't think that teen-age boys and girls should hold hands during a church service. At what point do like-minded folk run into danger of putting the letter of the law over the spirit ?