Handshaking

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  1. Salty

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    In a thread about order of service Kyredneck listed "handshaking" as part of the service.

    That is a deal breaker for me. Someone will shake hands with me only becaue they were told to. Then after service, they just totally ignore vistors. This has happened all too often.

    Thoughts

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    ?????? ....dealbreaker? I don't understand.

    At every Old Baptist church I've been to the folks walk around and shake hands at the end of the service IF they're inclined to. No one makes them, and the order is not given to. It seems to be tradition with PB's in this locale to start shaking hands (lots of hugs too) at the second stanza of the closing song. Visitors generally just stand in their pews where they sat and everyone comes and shakes their hand. They do not get ignored. The Old Baptists are as friendly of folks as they come.
     
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    The deal breaker for me would be to have to give Salty a Holy kiss!!!!
     
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    What I'm talking about is when the pastor says " all right, everyone turn to your neighbor, shake thier hand and greet them" If someone only does it beacuse they are told, I rather they not do it.

    I certianly enjoy having someone greet me beacuse they want to - and you can tell by their attitude.

    My puprose here is not to stop handshaking, but to encourage fellow Christians to sincerly be friendly!

    Salty
     
  5. Salty

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    I'll make plans to be down their for Valentine's Sunday then :love2: :smilewinkgrin:
     
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    I am not sure why "greeting" has to be an actual part of the service. I think people should do it before and after, but not as a line item on order of worship.
     
  7. Salty

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    I'll be sure to visit your church! :applause:

    Salty

    PS is hand clapping allowed there :smilewinkgrin:
     
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    A couple of times we've had lots of colds and sniffles going through the church. When fellowship time came, our pastor said, "Today, just wave at each other."
     
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    Reared in a different era when hand shaking with women was only proper when she extended her hand I wonder if this is still true. I have a fear of shaking hand with a man and not doing so with the woman. If she is a "womens libber" she may be offended and if not she make think I am shunning her.
     
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    You might not want to shake annsi's hand
     
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    I get tired of worrying about what other people think. So, I leave political correctness for those who want to play those games and go about my life. If I offend you because I did something wrong, I will apologize. But if I offend you because your some sissy boy or manly woman who wants to be treated like a dude instead of a lady...well, not much I can do fer ya.
     
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    well said:thumbs:
     
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    Well, it isn't a 'line item' with the Old Baptists. It's customary, traditon, here in these parts. Besides, this is Kentucky. I've been around enough to appreciate the inherent friendliness of the people of my home state.

    Those of you who have a problem with shaking the Saints' hands; I quess I already know how you would feel towards washing the Saints' feet; which we Primitive Baptists also practice. :)
     
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    Salty, you would be more than welcome to visit the church I attend. I will be sure to greet you when I see you come in the door. :D

    Hand clapping allowed? Why would we stop it??
     
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    I want to emphasis that I do enjoy greeting others with a handshake. What I don't like is when it is "forced" and therefore not genuine :saint:

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    1. Tradition!! Wow. A "great" reason to keep on hanging on.

    2. Inherent friendliness. This may not be your case, but in some churches, the only time people share their inherent friendliness is during the service. Forget before, forget after.

    3. I don't have a problem shaking hands, but I like to greet and talk and interact.
     
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    This is more of why I have issue during the service. It feels forced to me.
     
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    You make it sound as if it's a bad thing. We're not 'hanging on'. It's just what we've done for centuries, I quess.

    It's not our case at all.

    After church, it's not unusual for folks, and I mean most everybody, to linger and talk for quite some time. It's NEVER a rush to get out, go to your car, and leave (unless you've got something you have to do). Then most of us, sometimes all, will meet at the same place to eat out, and often we pottluck at church.

    Really, it blows my mind that shaking hands with one another could be such a big deal.
     
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    Salty, trust me, since finding a home with the Old Baptists, I've come to consider them to be on the whole the most 'qenuine' people I've ever known. I don't feel deserving to be called Primitive Baptist. Most of them put me to shame.
     
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    I might shake hands if you aren't sick. However, I'll wash my own feet, thank you very much.
     

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