Matthew 10:37-39 (37) He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. (38) And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me. (39) He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it. Matthew 16:24-27 (24) Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. (25) For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it. (26) For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul? Mark 8:34-35 (34) And when he had called the people unto him with his disciples also, he said unto them, Whosoever will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. (35) For whosoever will save his life shall lose it; but whosoever shall lose his life for my sake and the gospel's, the same shall save it. Luke 14:27 And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple. I think there is a difference between being a disciple and being a believer. A disciple is one who follows Jesus, bearing his own cross. While Christ promised that whoever believed in Him would be raised up on the last day, I believe there is more for those who will truly be His disciples. Revelation 3:4-5 (4) Thou hast a few names even in Sardis which have not defiled their garments; and they shall walk with me in white: for they are worthy. (5) He that overcometh, the same shall be clothed in white raiment; and I will not blot out his name out of the book of life, but I will confess his name before my Father, and before his angels. How do we know if we have picked up our cross? If we have not, will he say 'Depart from me, I never knew you?' Phi 3:10 That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death; Luke 9:23 And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. I don't think this is a denying of self like is spoken of in Colossians: Col 2:23 Which things have indeed a show of wisdom in will-worship, and humility, and neglecting of the body; not in any honor to the satisfying of the flesh. But rather a denying of self to put others and Christ's kingdom first. Mark 10:43-45 (43) But so shall it not be among you: but whosoever will be great among you, shall be your minister: (44) And whosoever of you will be the chiefest shall be servant of all. (45) For even the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many. Is this how we pick up our cross, by ministering to others? I think this may be it. Just something I am looking at in the word, thought I would get some input. I'm sure this has been preached upon many times.