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Guitar, aren't you 16? Not to worry! Just be friends and enjoy your friendship. 6-10 years or so from now, you'll find the young woman God has for you. In fact, you should be praying for her every night that God prepare her, make you worthy of her and more.

Diane (WAY over 16)

 

guitar,
i will also say to relax, and not rush in to anything.
I didn't marry until I was 33. White dress [meaning what it is supposed to mean] and all.
God has her out there somewhere, Maybe it's Kim, maybe it's not.

gayla (also over 16 )

 

Guitar: I agree with Diane and Gayla.

You have been praying for seven months. That is definitely a step in the right direction!

Do the two of you ever pray together or have devotions or Bible Study together or with your respective families?

That could show you her true character and dispel what you are hearing others say about her. Also, Josh may be just chewing on some 'sour grapes'.

Another good indicator is how do your parents feel about her?

The main thing is to stay in the center of God's will. He will never steer you wrong.


§ue (farther over 16 than the rest - but can still remember)!

 

If there seems to be a concensus on some issues among her accusers then you might be wary (1 million satisfied/unsatisfied customers cant be wrong). It would really depend on what those issues were and how serious they are. Remember that she or anyone else you may be involved with at some point are never going to show you their true nature up front. I had a friend once who certain people accused of stealing things. She never stole anything from me and I really wanted to believe that it was not true, but I kept hearing the same things from different people. Later she was fired from a job for theft. Pray about it and keep an eye open.

 

Forget about her. You've probably got enough baggage of your own to deal with without lugging around any of her excess. Remember, theres a lot of women in the world but theres only 1 Guitar25.

 

Guitar,

You said that you have been praying to God every night for 7 months. Maybe he's trying to show you through others. Be careful not to look at what you think, but at all the things that come to you about her. Maybe you already know what His answer is.

 

Guitar,

I guess my advice would be to allow her to be your sister in Christ for a while without all the pressure and emotional baggage of having to be boyfriend and girlfriend. Pray together. Study the Bible together. Go to Church together. Hang out with friends together. But, at your age, (and believe me, I have been there), there really is no reason to try and push an adult relationship on yourself too soon. Sometimes, it is really a great thing to be a child. Man, if only I knew then what I know now...

Life truly was a lot more simple then (except for all the complex emotional baggage that I brought upon myself).

Please don't take this the wrong way, but just enjoy being a kid for a while. Get into the Word and strengthen your relationship with God. You will have plenty of time for all these other things later on.

Joseph Botwinick

 

I would have to ditto what everyone is saying. They are on track.

I am surprised at the number of people I thought God had brought into my path, only to figure out that was not the case. I always thoguth I was ready for a husbnd and was wondering why God had not brought me one.

I am 40, and I think I just figured it out.

 

He guy, I am 17 and my advice is be without care. Paul writes to the unmarried and says, "I want you to be without care." You just gotta let things be and if something becomes of it then great.

 

Hey, Guitar25...

I remember what broken hearts were like. Definitely not at the top of my list of enjoyable things in life. Might I encourage you to begin refocusing things? I am convinced that when we hurt, the only Person we can trust in and rely on is Jesus Christ. I would encourage you to start worshipping Him, because as bad as you feel now, remember what it was like to be without God.

And in remembering what Christ has saved you from, ask God to provide you peace that passes all understanding (because guys will never be able to understand girls, you know!) Put on some of your favorite music, maybe even write a new song or two. Focus on God, and the hurt will begin to go away.

Also, be honest with God about your hurt. It's not like he doesn't already know it is there. Be specific about how you feel and ask God to provide peace. The more honest we are with God about our emotions, our state of mind, and where we are in life, the more that God will meet our needs. I've seen it in my own life many times, and I've seen it in others many times as well.

Peace to you!