Holidays--Where do you draw the line?

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  1. abcgrad94

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    It seems like we're being inundated with more and more "holidays." As a kid, I remember the basics: Valentine's Day, Easter, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years. It was fun back then.

    Now we have Sweetest Day, Secretaries Day, Boss' Day, Grandparents Day. . .and on and on the list goes. While I believe in honoring those who deserve it, I feel an annoying sense of guilt about not wanting to "celebrate" all these extra money-makers for Hallmark. I don't want to hurt my grandparents, boss, etc. but it's hard enough just to remember birthdays and Christmas gifts. Now even the schools are celebrating Grandparent's Day, so when one grandchild sends a card, Grandma wants to know why all the other grandkids didn't send her one, too.

    How on earth do we handle this stuff without coming off as insensitive? I especially hate Father's day, but feel obligated to buy cards to avoid a guilt trip.
     
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    Perhaps handle it the same way public schools handle who, or what church, or what represented faith, gets to say the morning prayer--- no one does. Likewise, celebrate no holidays. If that 'respects' all faiths, then this should respect all holidays.
     
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    Unless i benefit from the holiday, it doesn't exist!!!:laugh: :wavey:

    Choose as a family which ones you will celebrate, and leave it at that...
     
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    BTW, I haven't seen any "Secretaries' Day" cards or flowers in the last 3 years or so; I think that, for some reason, failed the Political Correctness test, and it's now "Assistant's Day." All I can figure is that the word "secretary" conjures up an image of either a nice-looking, well-groomed, obsequious young woman, or one that's middle-aged with big round glasses.
     
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    Sometimes, on most holidays, I couldn't care less. Sometimes, I just need a holiday to celebrate. It could be some of that, as well as tradition, to mull into a family.
     
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    Years ago I had to get up at 2 am to drive a long distance to speak. On the way I heard that it was Mother-in-laws day. Later I heard that it was another special day.

    As I was introduced I told the folks that I had heard that it was Mother-in-laws day but that I had also heard it was national Mule day :tonofbricks:

    Consider the ice broken :thumbs:
     
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    There are way to many "days"!

    We gift give on Christmas, birthdays, Mother's and Father's Days. Valentine's is for eating out as are anniversaries. Occasionally, T and I will gift each other on our anniversary separately, but more often we buy ourselves something we can enjoy together. Depends on our mood.

    Cards have gotten hugely expensive and I tell my folks not to buy them for me. Believe me, I can find a bunch of things to do with the $15 or more that my family would spend on birthday cards at the store. Make me a birthday card. The only store bought card I need contains sewing machine needles! :)
     
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    I guess you'll have to take that up with God.
     
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    I thought the Grench was for Christmas. I love Father Day makes me so happy I have Three pretty little girls. I love getting them home made cards.
     
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    Whatever ones give me a day off from work...I advocate.
     
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    Still trying to sell my birthday before the 9th comes around. I don't wanna be 48.

    If ya buy it within the next 24 hours, I will throw in my Grandmother's birthday in too. She is with the Lord now and no longer has need for it.
     
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    You look much older than 48! :laugh: Happy Birthday!
     
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    Believe it or not, I had grey in my beard at 17. And at 33, I was getting Senior Citizen Discounts.
     
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    Here in the UK, it all seems to have started off hundreds of years ago with "Mothering Sunday", celebrated on the 4th Sunday in Lent since the 16th century. Originally it had nothing to do with female parents, but was a day when people who lived in little villages went to their nearest big church or cathedral, which was referred to as the "Mother Church". Visiting the mother church like this was called "mothering". It was a Roman Catholic tradition, which passed over to the Church of England. Other customs developed. For example, girls and boys who were "in service" (servants in large houses) would be given the opportunity not only to visit their "mother church" on that day, but also to visit their actual mothers, perhaps taking small gifts of flowers. As a boy in the 1950s, I remember that in the Anglican church we attended as a family, flowers were distributed to all mothers during the service on that day.

    Now, though still on the fourth Sunday in Lent (18th March this year, 2nd March next), it is usually called "Mothers' Day". And of course, as in the US, we now have a "Fathers' Day", a "Grandparents' Day" and so on. But none of these is a holiday in the sense of being a day off work - they are all on Sundays anyway.
     
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    We celebrate the "old" (meaning the ones I grew up with) holidays. Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, Valentine's Day, Veteran's Day, Memorial Day, 4th of July, Mother's Day, Father's Day and birthdays.

    We give gifts on Christmas and birthdays.

    I usually make my own birthday and Christmas cards. My sister (76) and I have been sending each other the same card back and forth for over 20 years. We add a note each year. It is getting pretty thick. This year, I had to put two stamps on it. LOL
     
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    :laugh:

    Mother-in-law day is the 4th Sunday in October. They should have just put it on Halloween where it belongs.
     
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    LOL, Sue! I love that idea! Course I don't have any sisters! But what a nice way to follow the families through the years.

    I have to say, this past weekend we celebrated my parents 50th anniversary. Of course, we went card hunting. Two of our favorites that we did NOT buy were:

    One that ended up a nice syrupy poem with "you've been together all this time and it shows!" :eek: :laugh:

    And the other a beautiful card with flowers and butterflies all over it, exactly something my mother would have liked, but upon closer examination something was strange with it. It was a dial the date card and you could turn the wheel for whatever anniversary it happened to be. I don't know where it started but it ended up at the 75th. Only problem with that was at year 60 it stopped being a yearly thing and the next number was 65! I guess not many folks have a 61st, 62nd... anniversay! :laugh:
     
  19. webdog

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    Amen :thumbs:

    We need more holidays that give us time off of work!
     
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    Heyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy! I resemble that remark! :saint:
     

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