I'm struggling with a difficult situation (IMO). I wish this didn't have to be my introduction to this board but alas, counsel on this is part of why I joined. Truth, the difficulty probably isn't all that hard to resolve but being as I'm in the middle of it, I'm having trouble getting a Biblical perspective on it. I could use some Biblical counsel. The more scripture you can give to show doctrine the better and please, it needs to be in context - taking things out of context is a big red flag for me. Alright, here's the situation: I'm having a serious problem with an acquaintance. The person, whom I thought to be a wise, holy individual, has instead turned out to simply be sincerely traditional - and worse, much worse. The problem gets worse... The man is my current pastor. I've tried talking with him as with a father, that is, kindly, not accusing, showing him what the Bible says, on several occasions. He agrees verbally but there has been no change in his ways and it's been months since we first talked. There are also numerous other issues I could name. I was sent to this church for a reason. That seems to have been fulfilled. Now, how on earth do I walk away from this man without 1. hard feelings, 2. giving the church the wrong impression and 3. inadvertently bad-mouthing the pastor when someone asks why I'm leaving. Unfortunately, a number of folks in the church are aware that I had a delicate personal issue to settle with the pastor and it's going to look like I'm leaving because of that issue. Members are going to ask how the issue worked out and when I tell them it didn't, they will want to know what the reason is. That is where I'm stuck. If I say the truth, it will probably look like a case of bitterness. I don't want to hurt anyone in this and I also don't want to hurt my name but at the same time, I can't stay where I am. I've learned my lessons (I hope) and it's time to go home, back to my previous church, I just have to figure out how to do it right. Doctrinally sound advice is much appreciated. In advance, thanks.