HOW TO DEBATE PROPERLY

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HOW TO DEBATE PROPERLY

  1. We should just state the facts of our case and let the chips fall where they may

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  2. The other person's feelings are what's more important

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  3. The exchange of ideas and not doctrine is whats important

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  1. Claudia_T

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    Okay Everybody,


    This is my effort to try to help things here be more "Genteel" and "Civilized".

    I am the first to admit that I have absolutely no tact at all. I tend to whop people over the head with my views. I got a post from Spiritual Mad Mad that said this:

    "'Semantics is a tricky thing...

    There is an art to making a point without sticking the point through the opposite debater...

    I am not as good at it as I would like to be...

    I call it giving *them* "wiggle room"...

    "Taste these two statements"

    Your home church is more legalistic than most...

    -or-

    Your home church appears to be more leaglistic than most from my vantage point...

    Which is more palatable??'"


    ..and it started me thinking about it. About how I have alot of room for improvement on how I handle people and how I talk to them.

    So what I would like for this topic to be about is giving your own views on maybe how we could all learn to talk to each other in a more civilized tone.

    What should we maybe realize about each other?

    ...things like that...

    So let us know how you feel and please vote in the poll.

    Claudia
     
  2. D28guy

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    I voted, but I dont really concern myself with any "rules of debate".

    (I'm sure some people are saying "yeah, we know!) :D

    The most profitable way to discuss these things is to just share what one prayfully believes God is laying on their heart to share. Let the Holy Spirit take it from there.

    btw, it apears that neither Jesus nor Paul concerned themselves with any "rules of debate". Several times people tried to stone Jesus and Paul was making people so mad he caused riots.

    God bless, [​IMG]

    Mike
     
  3. Claudia_T

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    I see things differently,


    I dont act on here like I believe is the right way to act.

    To me, Jesus was very concerned how He treated people. He rebuked people but I think He was crying inside as He did it.

    Jesus used parables alot and I think it was because He was being careful not to publically humiliate anybody. He wanted them to realize he was talking about them but not have everyone in the world realize it.


    Look at Paul when brought before rulers. His speech before Agrippa was an example of true courtesy but at the same time he persuaded the people using eloquent language.

    What about this one? It would be good if I remembered that one...

    Prov:15:1: A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.


    It seems though that (at least I do this) we post things so fast we dont even think about how it might come across...


    Anyway besides the courteous part I would also like to learn just how to get my points across..

    Claudia
     
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    I think we need Counseling


    someone on another thread just now said "Claudia, if you are saying that you are sinless.."
    and Im sitting here choking on my Vodka thinking, "Now how on earth did he EVER get the idea that I was saying I am sinless out of what I just posted?"


    (Just kidding about the Vokda) Its almost like we need to take courses on communication skills. Like we need to repeat back to the person what we THINK they said and check and see if we got it right...
     
  6. gekko

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    people need to go back to school and learn how to read properly - and to write properly.

    i for one failed english and need to take it over in the fall semester... :confused:
     
  7. Heavenly Pilgrim

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    Claudia: Jesus used parables alot and I think it was because He was being careful not to publically humiliate anybody. He wanted them to realize he was talking about them but not have everyone in the world realize it.

    HP: Excellent point. I get a bit unsettled everytime I hear, “Do you know who that was being addressed to? That was only to Christians!.”

    Sorry, but sometimes when we speak to a crowd, or a church body, or an individual, we are giving them what might be termed ‘the benefit of the doubt.’ One might be addressing one that you have no confidence in yet professes to be a Christian. You 'could' start out by saying , “I believe you are deceived as to your salvation. You say you are saved and act that way? If you were a Christian you would act differently than you do. You need to repent and get right with God.” Wisdom may point to a different tactic. One might approach it this way. “As believers God calls us to a holy walk. Scripture tell us that if we are going to walk with Him, we should walk even as Christ walked. Scripture invokes us to examine ourselves to be of the faith. If we find that Scripture and our conscience warns us of actions that are displeasing to Him, we are told to repent of the wrong and place our faith in Him, and that if we confess our sins He is just and able to forgive us of our sins, and that the blood of Jesus Christ will cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

    Notice how I addressed the individual as a believer, solely upon the merits he claimed to be, not that I had any confidence in his salvation. By placing us both on the same level for communication sake, in some cases one might find a more receptive spirit.

    I believe much of Scripture is written in the same way. It may be addressed to Christians solely on the merits of the audience claiming to be such or were simply present with them, when the author knew full well he was addressing a mixed crowd and desired to communicate truth to all present.

    We do the same thing by mentioning ourselves in the first person on certain points that may not be a problem we have at all at the time, but rather to form a bond from which to build, a way of saying “But for the grace of God, there goes I as well, or But for the grace of God it might indeed be my problem as well as yours, or It is my problem, (although I might be in total victory at the moment).” There is often a need for us to identify with the problems of others in order to form a bond in order to reach them or communicate truth to them.

    I am sure I am just preaching to the choir.
     
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    Heavenly Pilgrim

    When you say we need to put ourselves on the same level with others what comes to my mind is this..

    Jesus when talking to the woman at the well..

    remember how he starts out asking her for a drink?

    Just think, the Saviour of the world asking a mere human being for a favor!

    I think this made her more receptive to His message. What do you think?


    I dont care if you are preaching to the choir, we all need reminders every now and then! specially me! [​IMG]
     
  9. gekko

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    claudia said "Just think, the Saviour of the world asking a mere human being for a favor!

    I think this made her more receptive to His message. What do you think?"

    in response to that, this is what i replied to in the missions forum:

    here's the link ---> http://www.baptistboard.com/ubb/ultimatebb.php/topic/9/633.html#000005
     
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    The woman presents a failed argument to Christ attempting to divert the point away. Christ simply ignores it and presses the truth home "again".

    That is an instructive point.

    But in Matt 22 we SEE Christ in OPEN debate with Sadduccees. Here is pure brilliance as Christ USES the COMMON beliefs of BOTH and the infallible point of scripture as "proof" for the resurrection.

    His argument is constructed so that they have "no compelling response".

    Although the Sadducees do not outwardly admit to this defeat by anything other than "Silence" the Pharisees (who were no friends of Christ) saw clearly that Christ's argument was compelling and devastating to the Sadducees' position.

    So also did the crowd see this.

    So if you ask the Sadducees "why so silent on the inconvenient points Christ has brought up in his argument FOR the resurrection" you could have gotten a wide number of dodges and half-truths.

    But it was "pretty clear" to everyone else.

    And who knows - maybe there was a Sadducee or too that when home with something to think about - that they could not "admit to" because of pride of the moment.

    In Christ,

    Bob
     
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    It is always instructive to see the response and reaction of those whose argument has failed. In the case of the Woman at the well - she seemed willing to drop a failed argument as soon as light was shed upon the subject.

    I really like to meet people like that! It is always a pleasure!
     
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    wow 85 percent of the people who voted on the poll said we should just state the facts in a debate and let the chips fall where they may.
     
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    State the facts and let the chips fall where they may. But I'd like to add if someone ask a question or for more scripture to a post about something that someone had said. It would be wonderful to get a reply. To me it shows that either they don't know what they are talking about or that I was posssibley right and they just don't want to admit that a woman could possibley be right! [​IMG]
     
  14. gekko

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    claudia said "wow 85 percent of the people who voted on the poll said we should just state the facts in a debate and let the chips fall where they may."

    haha. i guess it goes to show that baptists like to speak bluntly. no?

    lol.
     
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    Sorry, double post.
    **Acually the processing page locked up on me.**
    If it happens don't hit your refresh button! :D
     
  16. bapmom

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    Claudia,

    I think sometimes we DO need to repeat it back to the person and see if we understood it correctly. Stating the facts and just letting the chips fall is not usually enough to really come to an understanding of each other. To some degree that is what we should do, don't try to dance around what our real point is....but we should also add a little tact to what we say and not jump to any conclusions that the other poster did not outright say.
     
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    Bob,

    I hope you dont mind, I took your Bible verses and stuck them over onto the "what happens if you are sinning when you die" thread. I never realized that was in Romans 2
     
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    bapmom,

    I agree with you completely on that. I just wish that I could remember to do all of that in the midst of a "debate". Everything seems to go so fast and you dont really sit there usually and ponder over what you're going to say and how to say it.. at least I dont, anyway.


    Claudia
     
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    Doctrine is the most important element when debating. After all that is what we are after, the truth of the matter. If it isn't then there is no use in a debate. That eliminates one of your choices right away.
    Secondly, as the Bible teaches; the truth hurts. Doctrine divides. Thus, while in many cases, a viewpoint may be stated more tactfully, one should develop a hardskin and realize that his position is going to be attacked. It is a debate. Realize that your position is going to be challenged, and sometimes not in the most tactful way. Thus people need to "battle-ready" as good soldiers of Jesus Christ. Soldiers are not cry-babies.
    Don't be emotional. Suck it up.
    At the same time realize that personal attacks and offensive language unbecoming of a Christian is not tolerated.
    Debate the issue, not the person. Avoid attacking the person. Stick to the topic at hand.
    DHK
     
  20. D28guy

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    Claudia,

    Up to 86% now.

    (Thats how I voted, btw)

    Mike
     

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