I am married but I just do not have much in common with the men at the church, and besides the church is not all that active in their activities for men. Perhaps an activity once or twice a year and besides that a prayer breakfast once in a blue moon. I do attend these breakfasts. When I was single and had this problem the solution was to go to another church with more activities and its what I did. Although I disagreed with their armianism I loved the fellowship which is something I did not get at the Calvinist church as they were small and had little actives for singles, although I agreed with their theology very much. The solution a friend of mine set was to go to more than one church. One church for the teaching and another for the activities. My wife seems to be against me fellowshipping with other churches, but this may be something she does not see nor understand as she is not in my shoes, but I know I will have more in common with the other churches and I am aware of some that just have far more activities for men. Perhaps I need to take a stand and step out. The separatism theology does not hold water, and there are plenty of Godly men at other non IFB churches. She enjoyed our meeting with the Gideons men last week and guess what? All of them were from non IFB churches. I think God is softening her. Ideas? Thanks..