I'll try to make this short. I worked for the state department of social services, and in my position, I was a mandated reporter of suspected child abuse, neglect and other things relating to the well being of children. My position was in low level management, and we licensed child care homes, including foster care, etc. My sister-in-law [now deceased] and brother had a license for foster care, and even though my office wasn't directly responsible for her house, she bragged to her social worker that her B-I-L was a supervisor for DSS. One thing led to another, and she was being investigated for keeping an unkept house, and being so depressed at times, that she'd lock herself in the bedroom and leave the foster baby in the care of her pre-teen and teenaged kids! We were invited to go to a football game to watch her two daughters perform. One was a cheerleader the other in the band! We went, and like football games, it was a damp [light rain], low 50's night. When we got there, they had the baby, and my S-I-L informed us that they had just gotten back from the Er seven hours earlier as the baby had a fever seizure and was diagnosed with strep throat. The baby was on anti-biotics and currently had a 101 degree temp! Of course, she had the baby bundled up, and had a blanket over his head. Still, he cried throughout the game. In my mind and according to law, this was neglect, maybe not if it is your own baby, but when a ward of the court is assigned to you to care for, it is neglect. Because I knew she was already being investigated, and that she told the worker to contact me if they wanted to know about how "great a foster parent she was?" I discussed this with my boss the following Monday, and she agreed that this was questionable enough to report it to protect me and my job. BTW - that was a Friday night game, and on Saturday morning, they were back in the ER, as the baby's temp spiked at 103, and they told the doctor about being at the game. What I didn't know at that time [when talking to my boss] was that the doctor reported them too, as she had seen the medical notes from 24 hours earlier and felt taking the baby to a football game was highly suspect and irresponsible. She had the right to an administrative hearing, and three years later it came out at the hearing that I was one of those who turned her in. Her entire family, and most of our family felt I was ratfink, and they have not talked to me since. Like her one daughter said to me, "I would have thought you'd do everything to protect my mom, not throw her under the bus!" The only good thing is, that after her death, my brother started back talking to me, and we have gained a relationship again. Of course, most of my nieces and nephews still harbor hate toward me, and I have not been invited to ANY family functions! I was a "tattle tail" as antoher OP insinutes, but it was out of legal responsibility, and my moral choice to uphold the laws I swore to support for the state in protecting children! BTW - according to our department attorneys, I forbidden to talk with my brother or anyone else in the family about my reporting the incident! And I should conclude by telling you that state law mandates we report abuse and neglect, and if we don't we could be jailed for up to 6 months, fined $1,000.00 and because of the position I was in, I would have been fired! And regardless of the legal boundries I was tied to, I felt badly for doing what I was mandated to do! I should also mention that, any of you who serves as a pastor or work with kids, have the same moral and legal responsibility to "tattle" on what you see as "Suspected" abuse or neglect, to any child!