Is he/she who you married?

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Do you feel your spouse has had a negative change since you married?

  1. yes

    10 vote(s)
    19.6%
  2. no

    41 vote(s)
    80.4%
  1. TaterTot

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    I was reading some articles here http://www.family.org/marriage/A000001375.cfm
    and got to wondering how you all felt (or if you are brave enough to answer it, lol)

    Oops, trying to ask more than one question, hold that thought...
     
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  2. LeBuick

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    I was holding the thought so long it began to slip out my hands...


    My wife and I are both strong willed people. I argue my side but she demands her way with actions. We struggled greatly in the beginning and somewhat even today. I know I tend to argue without thinking I am arguing, I think I'm just discussing but then my "preaching voice" as she puts it comes out.

    I know we both have changed but it was for the good of our life together. She understands me and I understand her more and we respect the ground we each walk and share our common ground together. I know I am a very different man than the one she married. I am much more understanding that there is another side and other opinions and I have really learned to share (time, life etc...). Negative, I think not. It is all for the good to them who love the Lord.
     
  3. billreber

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    Amen! We have also both changed, and God has used it to our growth and advantage.

    Well said, LeBuick!

    Bill :thumbsup:
     
  4. thjplgvp

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    After 36 years we are trading places. Translated: I am paying for my sins and she is reaping the blessings of being a kind, loving and compassionate spouse. :laugh: :laugh:


    Thjplgvp
     
  5. Not_hard_to_find

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    We'll celebrate 46 years next year -- and he's as wonderful as the day we met and a lot more experienced. God has been at work in both of our lives, and we are so grateful!
     
  6. bobbyd

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    You know, commenting in here is a little like: :tonofbricks:
     
  7. TaterTot

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    Yeah, I was wondering if that had anything to do with the few number of responses, lol.
     
  8. Friend of God

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    Thanks be to God that my Wife is still the sweet, innocent, Southern girl that I married.

    I have changed though, I'm still a work in progress. I think I have a sign on my back that says "Construction ahead - Reduce Speed".
     
  9. Sheila

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    I can't say that we haven't changed some but I answered no. I answered no because the changes we have made have been for the better. We have had our hard times but being christians and staying close to God has been the rock in our marriage. Randy (my husband) is the love of my life and I wouldn't change being his wife for any man. I thank God for the changes that we have made because we have made these changes together. I am sure there will be even more changes in him in the future and I will be right there with him because I know that regardles of the changes God will be the center of our marriage.
     
  10. bobbyd

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    Not to stir the pot any, but would a negative "change" that someone sees actually be the real person coming out? I'm just saying...
     
  11. Daisy

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    Both negative and positive, more good than bad overall.
     
  12. carpro

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    My wife has changed. She's more assertive, more sure of herself, and less dependent. All of which is good.

    She's also more beautiful than ever, inside and out.:thumbs:
     
  13. Brother Bob

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    Noooooooooo, she realizes more and more what a hunk she got.

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  14. Daisy

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    We've been married twenty years - we've both changed, grown up, mellowed.

    eta: I read the question wrong - he has not changed in a negative way at all.
     
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    Couldn't answer... didn't have a "Both/Neither" choice.

    Like Daisy, I've been married 20 years now. We've both changed... some for the good, some for the not-so-good. My wife is a little more pessimistic now, a little more like her mother and grandmother, but not too bad. I've become a little more like my dad, which isn't the greatest (he's very passive... and the missus doesn't like passive).

    But, overall, I think we've grown up pretty good over these past 20. Love really does continue to grow between two people who aredevoted to one another.
     

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