Is it a sin for a man to touch a women to whom he is not married?

I say nonsense! Scripture says:

1Corinthians 16:20. All the brethren greet you. Greet ye one another with an holy kiss.
2Corinthians 13:12. Greet one another with an holy kiss.
1Thessalonians 5:26. Greet all the brethren with an holy kiss.

Now unless a Holy Kiss is one where you kiss your fingers and blow expecting the Holy Spirit to carry it somewhere I say nonsense.

 

I am not huggy-buggy. That is how I grew up in England and coming to Canada was no different. This huggy thing just cropped up in the last 30 years.

To say I never hug is wrong because there have been times when I thought it appropriate,,For instance, after the death of someone's loved one. If I believed it to be a comfort to that person.

Regarding greeting one another with an holy kiss is a form of greeting and the handshake does this quite well, thank you very much.

In my culture, we don't even hug and kiss wife in public.

Part of my feelings in this area has to being a single pastor and always keeping my physical distance from females in my churches. No chance for rumours. Be friendly to all, familiar with none. I was never accused of womanizing.

It is not a question of sinning to do these things. I understand that people are different, around the world and even at home. I understand that cultures differ.

If someone in church tried to hug me, I wouldn't make a huge fuss about it, but it is not my cup of tea. Stiff upper lip you know.

Cheers,

Jim

 

I have yet to see a scripture that calls the exchange of unmarried men and women touching in appropriate places a sin.

 

I saw a title to an article online, in one of the news magazines I believe, entitled, "Is the hug replacing the handshake?" Hugging, kissing the cheek, the comfort zone varies from culture to cultural. I have been told by Chinese friends that their parents never said, "I love you," to them.

Some cultures are very stoic when a person is in pain, others are very verbal. My wife used to go to an OBGYN, a woman, from another culture who told her that in her culture a person in great pain during childbirth will never said, "Yes, give me pain medicine," while people from another culture, I'll kee it un-named, would be screaming and crawling the wall even if they were only in moderate pain.

Our culture controls us in many ways.

 

Regardless if it is cultural or not, the Bible is the final authority. Sadly, some Christians follow the cultural customs instead of doing what God would have us to do.

 

There is another culture that beats and kills their wives for disrespect of their husbands. Culture is not the standard for what Christians should do. Such thinking can lead to all kinds of errors.

It is impossible for such folks to prove, from scripture, that any and all forms of touching are against the will of God. As it has been pointed out even the simplest of gestures may still be inappropriate for some people. Not everyone has pure intentions. Even given that it is unnecessary to avoid it all together.

 

Then "culture" is not a factor or relevant to whether it is right or wrong.

 

a Godly touch

I think the question calls for an answer about a touch that we aren't sure if it is Godly or not. I agree the times are different with this issue. Yet God's Word remains the same for all generations. I wouldn't say scripture prohibits certain touching or kissing for dating couples who aren't married yet. I also agree we have to be careful in Church as some are more huggy that others. I prefer to shake hands but some say put that away and just hug me. Just some thoughts.:thumbsup:

 

What part of your culture have you shed since becoming a Christian?

It is a question all of us should think about. We should also carefully examine our culture and try to determine what should still be shed. This is a very hard thing to do. Some will say impossible to do.

Carlyle Marney in his book, "Faith In Conflit" calls culture the falcon that captures us before we can walk.

 

Can we find “dating” in Scripture?

 

I agree.

I think that it's best for a man not to touch a woman (except shake hands) unless he knows her well or has gotten a signal from her that it's okay (like she hugs him first).

The biblical text about giving a holy kiss pertained to that day and culture when that was the norm. For today, it would translate more as shaking hands or even just saying "hello" (imo). I do not want men I know casually giving me a kiss - holy or not.

Some men do not touch in an innocent way, even though it may look innocent.

 

Sadly you are quite correct. Far too many people in the US confuse their culture and Christianity and believe that if anyone does something culturally different then they are wrong ... and sinful.

 

It is not only in America that some people engage in seemingly innocent cultural behavior but have ulterior motives.