Is it wrong to enter the homes of people of opposite gender if a spouse isn't home?

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Is it wrong to enter the omes of people of opposite gender if the spouse is not home?

Poll closed Sep 12, 2007.
  1. No, in most situations it is not wrong to enter the home

    14 vote(s)
    56.0%
  2. Yes, it is wrong to enter the home (with emergencies being the exception of course)

    11 vote(s)
    44.0%
  1. Joe

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    Hi Everyone

    It is a given that there are times when it is not wise to enter, so this is asking in most situations, or in general, is it ok to enter the home.

    You may want to drop something off or visit friends while you are on that side of town so would it be wrong to knock on the door and enter if the opposite gender spouse was home alone?
    As the person answers the door and happily invites us into their home, should we decline and give the reason right then?

    This issue came up in another thread with regards to 1 Thessalonians 5:22 "Abstain from all appearance of evil"

    There is no right or wrong, I just wanted your views. Since this is in general, there are only two choices of answers. Thanks :)


    Blessings,

    Joe
     
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  2. Cutter

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    In answer to your question, I do not think it is wrong, just unwise, as you stated. Especially when the company is young. I have visited several widows in their homes alone and no one thought anything of it, probably because of the age difference. Now if it had of been a woman around my age, I think it would have raised some eyebrows, not to mention concerns among the community and church.
     
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    Due to the world and also brothers and sister ready and willing to accuse, it is not wise. I have done it when I sell a computer to someone or go to work on one, but feel very uncomfortable while I am there. I do not have to worry about my wife being jealous at all, but a preacher can be "murdered" by someone speaking a lie of adultery against him, though it would be untrue. Some people will believe it, and if you lose your "good name" among the community you will never be effective again as a preacher there. I advise against it, unless it is an unusually case, where it can't be helped. I am like Cutter though, I visit widows and think nothing of it, unless as he stated she is a widow of my age. I am getting so old now, no one don't really care anymore, I am pushing 69 years old................:) I would especially advise a young preacher or brother against it, some don''t even want you to learn to crow, before bringing you down.

    BBob,
     
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  4. Joe

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    Unnecessary and questionable remarks.
     
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  5. Bible Believing Bill

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    I can't vote because each and every situation is different.

    When Jeanne was still working her best friend provided the daycare for our children. There where often times I went to pick up the kids without Jeanne and our babysitters husband was not home yet. I picked up the kids, said hello and left.

    Now If I went to visit the lady, stayed all day, didn't have the kids, etc. then it would be wrong.

    My point is each and every situation is different and we need to evaluate all situations before we act. As show above I could enter the same house in two different situations one time it would be OK and the next it wouldn't because of the cirsumstances of my visit.

    Bill
     
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    I wouldn't and I wouldn't go into an office alone, as long as others are there it would be no problem, in the office or home. Years ago a lady broke down on the road, I picked here up and took her home, in a few days there was all kinds of talk and it took weeks to get it back down to where all was right. That was in St. Louis Park Mn., at time southern folks have to learn and I did.
     
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    What would people think of this christian woman if I had men entering my home when my husband isn't home? It would destroy my christian witness.
     
  8. Karen

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    Well put.

    I just had a man in my house without my husband here. He fixed my leaky faucets and did a great job, I must say.

    Two weeks ago, I had a man in my house without my husband here. Did a great job fixing the dryer.

    I expect a third man within the month to do our yearly furnace check.
     
  9. tenor

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    I couldn't answer this poll. There needs to be a third answer - It depends on the situation and the person(s).

    Generally, it not wise, but not a yes/no answer.
     
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    I can't think of a single reason where it would be okay for a woman to enter the home of a man, with the two of them being alone, no matter what the age difference. Rumors spread faster than wildfire around here!

    love,

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  11. Tentmaker

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    Not wise in this day and age.
     
  12. SaggyWoman

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    If I was home alone, I don't want my pastor to come visit me, if he was alone. I love my pastor, but that is plumb deluxe stupid. He can call me. Aside from the fact that I trust myself, and I trust my pastor. I don't like people's yakking mouths.

    Well, and not just my pastor. There isn't very many men that I want to come to my house and come inside for the same reason. I will stand out in the driveway and talk.

    Now, on the other hand, if it was my hairy man... heck, come on over!!
     
  13. Joe

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    You talking Cousin IT?

    Oh, but the incessant mumbling... :confused:
     
  14. standingfirminChrist

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    Is that Harry Tick? or Harry Leggs?:laugh::wavey:
     
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    I would say it is possible to cause scandal in doing so....if there is not a third person or more about...in my case I have a lovely huge veranda where I can entertain and thus lessen the likelihood of scandal as the veranda is in public view.......:thumbs:
     
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    Harry Ticks can stay home. Harry Legs....hmmmmm.
     
  17. faithgirl46

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    I agree. If you are visiting a friend for a few and he or she has to run an errand it isn't a sin to stay with the spouse. If the spouse in question has acted unseemingly towards you, it would be a good idea for you to run you own errand or go to thee store until your friend is due to get home.
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