I need some help. 2 men in our church are involved in conflict. One made false accusations of the other. The other in turn got angry, but I don't think he sinned in his anger (he said "Wait a minute" forcefully, then left). The man who got angry thought he had violated 1 Cor. 13:5, and wrote a letter of apology. It was never acknowledged. He in turn contacted me and said we needed to call a meeting in response to Matthew 18. I approached the alleged false accuser and he was very reluctant to meet. He barely acknowledged to me getting a letter from the other man. He did not act like had forgiven him, and then spouted off a bunch of suspicions he had about him (none of which are rooted in fact). Anyway, he said he would think about meeting with him (at first he was dead against it). I gave him a week, and never heard back from him. The Lord convinced me on Heb. 13:17 that since I will give account for their souls, we need to meet and be obedient to the Lord's directives in Matthew 18. I wrote both men the same letter, one page, and I also included some pastoral concerns in a separate letter to the alleged false accuser. I did not accuse him of anything, but I did explain why we needed to meet. Part of the reason I sent a letter is because this person does not listen well and would likely have tried to argue with me about it. Well, not only did the alleged false accuser not show for the meeting, he stormed in my office an hour after it was supposed to happen, asking why I couldn't talk to him like a man face to face about it, why I sent him a letter. I invited him to sit down with me right then and there and talk, and he refused (he is retired, so he had the time). Just looking for some counsel from you all about sending your members letters. What do you think? Hope I've given you enough background.