It's hard when people do not love you and treat you as you want to be treated.

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  1. Nicholas25

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    I am a senior in college majoring in special education. I am also substitute teaching to gain some experience in the classroom. Although I work at a community center I have not been able to work as much because of my crazy schedule. I work with a couple of ladies (one claims Christ, one does not) who do not seem to like me and are frustrated because I have not been working as much. These girls know I have a crazy schedule in my last semester, they know I am a Christian who teaches a Sunday school lesson on the radio and the teen Sunday school class at my church. I strive to teat them as I want to be treated but they are just not very nice. They could care less that I live for Christ.

    There are 15 or so of us on pace to graduate in special ed. this year. Eleven of those are girls. Most of them are mean, two-faced, and simply put, not very nice. They know the same things about me as the above girls I work with and do not care. They do not seem to like me.

    As far as I can tell I am a pretty popular guy. I work with kids at the community center, coach high school and summer baseball, and run a baseball camp for kids. I love everyone and want everyone to love me. Before Christ I did not care what anyone thought about me. Now it bothers me greatly if someone doesn't like me. Sometimes I want to get in the wicked flesh and say hey "I'm a Christian, I'm nice to everyone, I do this and this for the community and my church, most people like me, why don't you?" Now I know this would be prideful, cocky, and not Christ-like.

    How do you guys handle when people do not like you for no reason when they know you try to live a pure, moral life?
     
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    A great sermon that helped me in this area is entitled 'Freedom from the fear of man'. you can download it off of www.wayofthemaster.com . Great sermon, it speaks just on this issue.
     
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    It is possible your co workers might be frustrated because of the workload and that you used to carry more at work. Maybe not. You might want to talk to them about it and see if you can work it out.

    This is a hard thing to face, but not everyone is going to like you. It may or may not have to do with you living a moral life. But as far as you can, live peacably with all people.
     
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    Honestly, if someone chooses to dislike me for no reason at all, I don't let it bother me. There are plenty of people who do like me for me, so why waste time stressing over the few that don't? The way I look at it, God loves me, my husband loves me, and my children love me...what more do I really need? As long as you are not doing anything to provoke the situation or make it any worse, it is not your fault and there is really not much you can do. Some people are just negative and the only thing that will change that is a saving knowledge of Christ.
     
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    Don't waste another minute of your time on people who don't like you! Surround yourself with people who do like you and want the best for you instead. Life's short, God is forever!

    love,

    Sopranette
     
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    Learning that not everyone likes you is one of life's first and hardest lessons. People do not have to have a reason to dislike someone. Sometimes, they don't even know that they don't like you. They are just so caught up in their own lives that they don't stop to think about how their words or actions affect others.

    YOU, have to learn to have a thick skin. As the other's have said, take a look at what you are doing and if you are being kind and courteous, they are the ones with the problem. Let them deal with it. YOU continue to show the fruits of the Spirit and live your life accordingly. God never promised us that everyone would like us. Just the opposite, He tells us to expect persecution.
     
  7. Nicholas25

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    I do not think I am being very realistic. You know how it seems like everyone likes certain people. And I am sure there are people that think everyone likes me. But no one is liked by everyone, especially when it is in competitive and selfish enviroments such as the workplace and even church.
     
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    As a believer, I expect it. Jesus said that if they treated Him the way they did, they will treat us the same.

    "It's hard when people do not love you and treat you as you want to be treated."

    Apply this as if Jesus were saying it. Imagine how He feels...
     
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    1 John 3:13 "Do not marvel, brethren, if the world hates you."

    John 15:18 " If the world hates you, you know that it has hated Me before it hated you."


    Sometimes people are going to react to the witness that your life is, as you described. But keep in mind they might be angry because you make them come face to face with their rejecting of Jesus. It doesn't mean that your witness is not planting seeds that will later bear fruit. Keep your yourself in good cheer. As far as the women claiming to be a Christian, she may just not be very mature, in her faith, and finds it easier, to buddy up with the coworker, in order to gain her acceptance as a fiend. You might want to ask her about it in private if the right opportunity presented itself.
     
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    I agree with what has been said but would add one more thought:

    Dogs do doggy things.
    Mosquitoes do mosquito things.
    Dolphins do dolphin things.

    And unsaved people do unsaved people things.

    Don't blame them. Pray for them. Accept them, because they are probably not accepting themselves much, and somebody needs to!

    Remember in Romans 2, Paul reminds us that people are won by kindness.

    So just keep on, keepin' on. Ask the Lord Himself for some encouragement. He'll get it to you, and often in the most surprising ways...

    God bless you.
     
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    You are getting the same reaction from both co-workers, one of whom is a Christian and one who is not. You state their frustration is because you have not been working as much.
    Make sure you are honoring your commitments and not forcing or expecting them to pick up the difference. Your Christian commitments are wonderful, yet you should not use them as an excuse to not fulfill what you agreed to do workwise. I do not know your situation, I am merely commenting on what you may or may not need to look at.
     
  12. Nicholas25

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    I am not missing work because of my Christian commitments, I am missing work because school has started, and my work hours drop every year when school starts. I feel that is one of the big reasons I have this job is becaus the Lord gave it to me because it's one of the few that would work around my crazy schedule. I have also been employed the longest so it is not like we have not had the same situation the last three years.
     
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    I say again that even the people we think everyone loves, have people who do not like them. Like the lady said, sinners will be sinners! Sometimes we as Christians let our sin nature show, but we desire to be Christ-like, whereas the nonsaved have no Christ-like nature.
     

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