Just Got Married! What Indoor/Outdoor Activities To Do?

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  1. ChristianMaker

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    I have been really stressing over this lately. I live near Atlanta and surprisingly I am stuck with what to do as a married couple. Of course we do things. We are going to IMAX theater to watch a movie; just went to a park and visited sub shops around it; went to a new years eve party for a little while at a neighbors house.

    But we still felt kind of empty. We run and bike occasionally on a trail near the house; but I find myself looking at other couples that are all decked out on the trail in top of the line gear and bikes and going fast like they are dedicated to the sport and each other.

    I am looking for something that my wife and I would love to do together on a beautiful day. I was also very frustrated the other day because it was an extremely beautiful day and we had absolutely no plans.

    I know Atlanta is huge; it might be to huge that I do not know where to start. I wish there was a list of awesome activities to do so we can start trying one at a time. I tried searching sites but I have yet to find anything that lists just about everything.

    Well anyways I hope everyone here can pitch in some activities, books, and also maybe throw in some great sites to visit to get some great ideas!

    Best,
    ChristianMaker
     
  2. padredurand

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    There will be a time in your married life when you will wish time would slow and the demands on your time would lessen. Take a long walk. Hold hands. Talk and listen to each other. Don't worry about what other folks are doing. The best bike gear pales in comparison to a godly couple joining hands to serve the Lord.
     
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    Open your home up for christian hospitality and minister to those in your local church. Take part in a nursing home ministry presenting the gospel.
     
  4. Old Union Brother

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    :thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup:
     
  5. Scarlett O.

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    How 'bout... .....just enjoy the simplicity of each other's company.

    • read to each other
    • cook together
    • snuggle on the porch swing and watch the world pass by
    • have a pillow fight
    • play Scrabble
    • take a walk around the neighborhood together
    • have picnic in the living room on a rainy day
    • fold clothes together or paint a room together
    • make up a stupid silly love song together - (I'll guarantee you'll be singing it to each other 50 years from now)
    You don't have to try so hard to create the perfect itinerary. You are each other's mate - not each other's concierge. :laugh:
     
  6. abcgrad94

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    Have a baby. You'll never worry about having spare time again! :laugh:
     
  7. Winman

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    Yep, who needs outdoor activities when you are first married? I would go with indoor activities! Trust me, you'll be able to go on plenty of long walks when you're older.

    Just kidding (well, not really), but as someone else wrote, don't stress. Go on a picnic, go to the movies, or an amusement park. Go to the gym if you love exercise. Jog. It doesn't matter, just enjoy being together.
     
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    I'm gonna spell this out completely

    R----rolling
    O----on
    the
    F----floor
    L----laughing

    I've got two of um------we decided years ago to stop at two----looking back we both(wifey and I) wish we would have had about 8 more!!!

    ABC is right on the money----you have kids and you will wear yourself out!!!! And I mean that in a good way!!

    Now---my girl is 18 and proficient in music---in college as a Math major

    My boy is 16----we still homeschool him and he has never had opportunity to play football on High School level---but I've encouraged him to become a body builder/power lifter--bought him a good set of Olympic quality weights----and now---great day---he can push me around like a piece of paper!!

    Hang in there and do what comes natural!!
     
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    Padre??? Has your CP been "hi-jacked" by you know who?????????:laugh::laugh:
     
  10. Oldtimer

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    First, appearances are deceiving! Learned that a long time ago. That couple you mentioned may fight like cats and dogs, at home, over paying the bills they've racked up.

    How many dreamy eyed Hollywood types have we seen get married only to file for divorce shortly thereafter? Appearances are deceiving. High profile folks, and even some of our neighbors prove that over and over again.

    Having "absolutely no plans" would be a treasure for many folks, these days. Enjoy that while you can. Life is going to get in the way of those no plan days far too quickly than you like. Whether it's children, job pressures, care of a disabled relative.... the list can go on. Many times in my life, I would have given almost anything just to spend a quiet afternoon sitting on the couch with my better half. Just an afternoon with nothing planned.

    Next, take your time choosing things that you enjoy doing together. Who knows, you may discover that you enjoy going camping on weekends. Or exploring flea markets for hidden treasures. Or gardening. Or, becoming pros at firing up a slow cooker (BBQ) for friends and family. Or... you fill in the blank.

    That takes time! Rushing into something because somebody looks good may lead you down a path of disappointment. Simply because it isn't what truly fits you and yours. Don't discover many years later that you'd have rather been camping.

    In the meantime, if you're not already involved in your church, volunteer. It may be surprising to you to learn just how many different things you can do, if you raise your hand everytime. Especially if you church has a wide variety of ministries. Just doing that, and listening to the Holy Spirit may open up opportunities that you've never dreamed about. I can testify that's what happened to me. Both indoor and outdoor activities that have rewards far beyond just finding something to do on a day without plans.

    Congratulations on starting your journey together. We're nearing the end of ours. Been married 45 years, now. Some of my best memories started out on days with no plans. I hope that will be the case for the two of you, as well.
     
  11. Jkdbuck76

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    Hmmm. I'll just nicely say this: the first year of marriage is like boot camp. In that first year of marriage, you'll learn that everything your mother taught you is wrong: how to fold towels, how to make pancakes, how to pump gas. As a matter of fact, your wife will marvel how you could have survived for so long being so wrong about everything. :tonofbricks:


    But srsly: walk together.
     
  12. North Carolina Tentmaker

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    Atlanta is a great place for a young couple and there are plenty of cheap things to do. We lived in Stone Mountain and then in Duluth when we lived there 20 years or so ago.

    Stone Mountain park used to be one of the best deals around, don’t know if it still is or not. You used to get a yearly parking pass for less than 20 bucks. We would picnic, hike up the mountain, or ride bikes around the base. If you bring your own food there used to be plenty you could do for free once you got in. And I am pretty sure they still do an awesome laser show on the lawn during the summer. You picnic on the lawn in front of the carving and then after dark there is a light and music show.

    If you like to run or bike Piedmont Park is also a good spot in town. We enjoyed shopping even when we could not buy anything. We would ride the Marta to the in town malls Lenox Square and Phillips used to be good, and underground. During the day underground was great, but be careful after dark.

    Like I said, it was 20 years ago when we lived there. I know the world of coke and some other new events are downtown. The zoo, aquarium, and the old cyclorama, but all of those will cost you some money. Of course there are the braves and falcons. When they opened turner field you used to be able to buy standing room only tickets for $1 each and you could watch the game from the picnic area in left field, don’t know if they still do that or not.
     
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    Just a few thoughts in no particular order:

    Umm, what did you do together BEFORE you were married lol?

    Ask your wife what she would like to do.

    Did you go to church together this morning?

    Why do you have to "do" anything at all? Dont' you each have a hobby? (if not you both need one) Do you know, you can do seperate things together? I sew, my husband builds models and there are two ends to our dining room table! (what do you mean dining room tables are meant for eating on? No they're not!)

    A few things not to do: Don't compare your life to folks you don't know. That, leads to discontent.

    Best gear= nasty credit card debt!

    Do you want to bike? I have a sister in law who bikes seriously. You couldn't hire me to do it. (not that I could ride a bike without falling off, but, if I wanted to I could try right?)

    But, my husband and I (and our 3 1/2 kids) took karate as family and 5 of us earned our black belts. (our Godson was splitting his time between that and football and only earned to blue) Let me tell, there really isn't much better than being able to beat up your husband and kids and not get arrested for it! (properly geared up and spotted of course!) :D (Don't use your credit card for this either!)

    And sometimes, real life is about staying home and doing laundry and picking up the house (yeah, you might be a man, but you can pick your own clothes up off the bathroom and bedroom floor and go with your wife to the laundrymat!).

    :)
     
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    If you have to ask this you are not mature enough for marriage,
     
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    May I Suggest that You....

    ....prayerfully live each day with the willingness to be open to spontaneous opportunities to go with the flow, and enjoy each moment as they make themselves available.

    My wife and I have spent one day a week, for 32 years now, going out on a date (it wasn't planned, it just happened). It doesn't have to be anything spectacular, or costly, in fact, many times it involves going out to some kind of meal after shopping. So long as we spend some time out of the house, together, in a booth at a restaurant (fast food included) where we sit across from each other, and talk about whatever comes to mind.

    There are also the moments when we take the dogs to one of many local parks, and that gives us time to walk alongside each other as the dogs entertain themselves with the sights, sounds and smells of the park. These walks allow us to walk, side-by-side, and talk about whatever comes to mind. It is always unscripted and very spontaneous.

    The ability to be spontaneous in your relationship is a key to success. There will be times, my brother, that you will be discover yourself just sitting and watching television while your sweetheart works on a crossword puzzle. That is okay, because it is being together, in silence and in communication.

    And really enjoy each day. My brother just lost his wife, unexpectedly, and a good friend was killed in a car accident, leaving her husband; a friend of ours also, alone and lost within the whys of unexpected death of a loved one!

    You don't know what today, let alone tomorrow holds, so live for the moment, and enjoy each other's presence. And the key to enjoying each other and getting the best out of each day is to be completely: spontaneous!

    Blessings and prayers for unconditional favors in your marriage. Believe me, the years pass way too quickly, so make the most of the moments!
     
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    Some of the answers here have been spot on. Do ministry together - volunteer. It would be great for the two of you!! Get involved in your church. Start a young couples ministry. Take up a new hobby together. Find an elderly neighbor who you can help by doing yard work and stuff. There's lots of things to do!! :)
     
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    Completely off subject, but this reminds me of a sermon I heard by Curtis Hutson.

    He said the day he got married, a fellow walked up and asked, "Well, how does it feel to be married?". He replied, "I don't know, I've only been married 5
    minutes."

    Then he said, "That was 35 years ago, ask me now and I can tell you!"

    He was a great preacher, not afraid to use humor.

    You can't expect marriage to always be exciting, as time goes by it becomes less exciting, but it becomes something much deeper, and much better.
     
  19. Winman

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    Well, he IS married, so cut the guy some slack and help him out.

    I can give you two things that will make your marriage happier;

    #1 Put your dirty clothes in the hamper, don't leave them on the floor.

    #2 Always, always, always, make sure to put the toilet seat down when you are finished!
     
  20. Robert Snow

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    You could drive 120 miles north to Chattanooga, Tennessee. There is plenty to do there.
     

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