True legalism is all about the predominantly Jewish Church of the 1st century seeking to have the Gentiles become Jews in order to become Christian. That is what Paul fought against. If you look at the big picture you see all through the NT Paul gives various decrees/commands/doctrines on day to day living issues, hair, music, eating and drinking and modest clothing and even sex. Legalism is basically making Christianity mean Christ plus you name it instead of Christ's work alone for salvation. Sanctification also comes from God, but we are also told that we should all speak the same thing and be in one accord. Yet, there are far too many Christians that equate grace to meaning do whatever you want to do since you are under grace. That is great error and has led to Ranterism, Oneidaism and other antinominan groups. The Amish and the Mennnites are not at all wrong stating that Christians should avoid worldiness and should stand united to let their light shine. Where they would go wrong is making hook and eyes versus buttons or head coverings a matter of salvation. That would be legalism. A "corporate" teachig or standard is not legalism. 1 Cor 11:16 But if any man seem to be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of God. KJV No matter how you interpret this Paul was saying that no church of God had that custom. No room for private or personal interpretation or "liberty" here. Paul said that his writings were the commandments of God. That would make them applicable to everyone not just to spiritual while the rest of the folks said that was just Paul's interpretation and he was a legalist. We like to quote Romans 14 & 15 and quibble over gray areas, but Paul told the stronger brother to bear the infirmities of the weak and even said that the pork eaters were right as were the lads who didn't celebrate the Hebrew holidays. If we don't keep passages in their context especially when dealing with merging of the Jews and Gentiles we can come up with all sorts of nonsense. In the contect of Romans, if teh pants wearing women are the stronger then they need to give it up at church so as not to offend their weaker sisters but wear them at their home or anywear the weaker sister may not see it and if that is not possible than to give them up forever as Paul would have given up food. Hence, while they may shout that they have liberty Paul would tell them to give up their liberty not flaunt it. The Gentiles could eat their pork chops at home but they should not bring them to a love feast or shove one in the nose of a Jewish believer. If we are in the world but not of it and we are ambassadors of another country then our attire, desires and demeanor should be far different then that of the world we live in not a mimic of it or even a condoning of it. If we are friends with the world we are the enemies of God. Conversely, if we are the true friends of God the world will hate us. If they hate us that is good. 1 Peter 3:16-17 16 Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ. 17 For it is better, if the will of God be so, that ye suffer for well doing, than for evil doing. KJV If we do what they are doing they certainly won't call us evil doers but rather friends. They call us evil doers when we do the will of God which is contrary to their culture. Using their culture to bring them into the Church is much like bringing strippers to your wedding and telling your Bride that you were only trying to be sure that there were plenty of guests at the wedding. I doubt she would buy it and I doubt that the Lord buys most of the junk we are doing in the name of bringing them in. Yes, scour the byways and bushes compelling them to come in but don't bait them in with entertainment. Can you show me one example where Christ entertained people? The Apostles? Nope, they spoke to their needs or warned them of Hell but there were no entertaining shows put on. I wonder why Paul didn't do stand up comedy to bring them in. Everyone loves comedy. Jesus lost most of His audience when he did not keep feeding them or doing miracles on the hour. Indeed, the "seeker" churches may be a version of modern legalism since it is Christ plus entertainment and media shows. If those churches cannot reach out to the real needs of people to bring them in I am a bit concerned about the Gospel they are sharing.