How many of you said (or wife said) these words in your wedding voews? If a hard decision has to be made (99.9% of decisions we've made in 35+ years of marriage have been mutual) then who is to "obey" and who is to lead? My wife said "obey" in her vows; I did not. But know that about 1/2 of modern ceremonies do NOT use "obey" in them. Sadly. Women's lib has done the body of Christ no favor . .