I have been in places where I just do not fit in and have little in common with the people there as far as secondary interests. Some say you all have Christ in common which is true, but people want secondary interests and commonalities in order to connect and if you have little this will mean it will be hard to find friends. There is also the component of the church and they not having many ways to connect with others. At my present church they have very little for men and very little connection events. I have been to all that I could attend, but they just have very little. Back in SC I visited a number of churches and had this problem, until I finally settled in on a church with a very active singles ministry and lots of ways to connect with one another and so I was successful at making friends and finding ways to connect. But there was others that visited our group and some where just older singles and they had this problem and eventually they just left and moved on. The missing variable was the activities and the churches where I had failed to make friends and connect had very little of it. I also remember a guy in the singles ministry that was involved in 2 different churches singles ministry just so he could always be busy, have activities and make friends. During my singleness days this was easier, but my spouse is not all that social and wants to only go to one church all her life, which sooner or later is not going to work as I want to make friends and the only way this is going to happen is if I find other churches with more activities and ways for men to connect which I will do.